Blondie in Spokane
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Thank you so much for sharing that, HWJ....and I'm so sorry for your loss...I truly, truly am....
These are 2 beautiful posts by rita & family
for those of you that have never been though anything like this, let me shed a little light on the grieving process
you can google & look up the grieving process on a lost love one, or even a lost love. i wont go into all that
all the experts agree it is about the same steps, & there are a couple (cant remmeber which ones right off hand) that you may go over time & time again
in the case of a missing person (from my experience) you can even get clear to the "acceptance" & have to start over at step one
the slightest glimmer of hope that one is alive can take you out of a greiving process & into more of a faith thing...only to get shot down again & may put a person right back into a denial
there is a lot of guilt, what if I did this or that..etc
there really is something about closure, as well as something really unsettling about lack of closure
closure also comes in many degrees..closure of knowing the truth, closure of having your loved one back, closure of proper burial if the loved one is indeed passed away, closure of coviction of the perp(s)
just a brief recap on me....had a close relative abducted in the fall of 2004 & we figured dead........found bones & close dental match in spring of 2008, positive DNA wasnt achieved until spring of 2009, with a funeral service shortly after.....we only know what happened, not who & why..so as far as me, i have closure on several levels & am still going through many stages of grief, sometimes similtanious
all that said, even getting close to this case has been very hard on me, & dug up wounds that i was sure were healed or at least scabbed over real good..not true
i really avoided it for as long as i could, it was selfish of me, i just want ready to face it, i live close enough to the area i could have searched, i didnt, im real sorry for that looking back..i probably should have been the 1st on the scene just because i know whats it is like in those frantic 1st days
im not sharing all this for a "poor hwj" thing, just shedding some of the reality of what a person goes through, & i really cant imagine if it was my mother
anyhow, may The Lord our God stregthen & sustain the Kimmi's
These are 2 beautiful posts by rita & family
for those of you that have never been though anything like this, let me shed a little light on the grieving process
you can google & look up the grieving process on a lost love one, or even a lost love. i wont go into all that
all the experts agree it is about the same steps, & there are a couple (cant remmeber which ones right off hand) that you may go over time & time again
in the case of a missing person (from my experience) you can even get clear to the "acceptance" & have to start over at step one
the slightest glimmer of hope that one is alive can take you out of a greiving process & into more of a faith thing...only to get shot down again & may put a person right back into a denial
there is a lot of guilt, what if I did this or that..etc
there really is something about closure, as well as something really unsettling about lack of closure
closure also comes in many degrees..closure of knowing the truth, closure of having your loved one back, closure of proper burial if the loved one is indeed passed away, closure of coviction of the perp(s)
just a brief recap on me....had a close relative abducted in the fall of 2004 & we figured dead........found bones & close dental match in spring of 2008, positive DNA wasnt achieved until spring of 2009, with a funeral service shortly after.....we only know what happened, not who & why..so as far as me, i have closure on several levels & am still going through many stages of grief, sometimes similtanious
all that said, even getting close to this case has been very hard on me, & dug up wounds that i was sure were healed or at least scabbed over real good..not true
i really avoided it for as long as i could, it was selfish of me, i just want ready to face it, i live close enough to the area i could have searched, i didnt, im real sorry for that looking back..i probably should have been the 1st on the scene just because i know whats it is like in those frantic 1st days
im not sharing all this for a "poor hwj" thing, just shedding some of the reality of what a person goes through, & i really cant imagine if it was my mother
anyhow, may The Lord our God stregthen & sustain the Kimmi's
Thank you HWJ, simply Thank You.
My cousin Leslie Beebe (there is a thread for her here) was missing for eight days (Dec 2004) before she was found deceased (read murdered) in her car. Her case remains unsolved also. I live in FL and when Caylee Anthony went missing I just could not sit here and not go search. I have since joined TES and am now in the process of training one dog for HRD (Human Remains Detection) and another for live scent/tracking. I start a PI internship soon so that hopefully when I obtain my license I will be able to devote my time to finding the missing pro-bono. What a difference a year makes. Thank you for sharing HWJ. Thank you.
Peace and prayers for the Kimmi family. Many, many prayers.
Thank you HWJ, simply Thank You.
My cousin Leslie Beebe (there is a thread for her here) was missing for eight days (Dec 2004) before she was found deceased (read murdered) in her car. Her case remains unsolved also. I live in FL and when Caylee Anthony went missing I just could not sit here and not go search. I have since joined TES and am now in the process of training one dog for HRD (Human Remains Detection) and another for live scent/tracking. I start a PI internship soon so that hopefully when I obtain my license I will be able to devote my time to finding the missing pro-bono. What a difference a year makes. Thank you for sharing HWJ. Thank you.
Peace and prayers for the Kimmi family. Many, many prayers.
Im sorry for your loss, & God bless you in your quest!
Thank you, & everybody else for the warm welcome here.
The five stages of grieving are:These are 2 beautiful posts by rita & family
for those of you that have never been though anything like this, let me shed a little light on the grieving process
you can google & look up the grieving process on a lost love one, or even a lost love. i wont go into all that
all the experts agree it is about the same steps, & there are a couple (cant remmeber which ones right off hand) that you may go over time & time again
in the case of a missing person (from my experience) you can even get clear to the "acceptance" & have to start over at step one
the slightest glimmer of hope that one is alive can take you out of a greiving process & into more of a faith thing...only to get shot down again & may put a person right back into a denial
there is a lot of guilt, what if I did this or that..etc
there really is something about closure, as well as something really unsettling about lack of closure
closure also comes in many degrees..closure of knowing the truth, closure of having your loved one back, closure of proper burial if the loved one is indeed passed away, closure of coviction of the perp(s)
just a brief recap on me....had a close relative abducted in the fall of 2004 & we figured dead........found bones & close dental match in spring of 2008, positive DNA wasnt achieved until spring of 2009, with a funeral service shortly after.....we only know what happened, not who & why..so as far as me, i have closure on several levels & am still going through many stages of grief, sometimes similtanious
all that said, even getting close to this case has been very hard on me, & dug up wounds that i was sure were healed or at least scabbed over real good..not true
i really avoided it for as long as i could, it was selfish of me, i just want ready to face it, i live close enough to the area i could have searched, i didnt, im real sorry for that looking back..i probably should have been the 1st on the scene just because i know whats it is like in those frantic 1st days
im not sharing all this for a "poor hwj" thing, just shedding some of the reality of what a person goes through, & i really cant imagine if it was my mother
anyhow, may The Lord our God stregthen & sustain the Kimmi's
Thank you HWJ, simply Thank You.
My cousin Leslie Beebe (there is a thread for her here) was missing for eight days (Dec 2004) before she was found deceased (read murdered) in her car. Her case remains unsolved also. I live in FL and when Caylee Anthony went missing I just could not sit here and not go search. I have since joined TES and am now in the process of training one dog for HRD (Human Remains Detection) and another for live scent/tracking. I start a PI internship soon so that hopefully when I obtain my license I will be able to devote my time to finding the missing pro-bono. What a difference a year makes. Thank you for sharing HWJ. Thank you.
Peace and prayers for the Kimmi family. Many, many prayers.
1degree! Eeewww, lol. I guess once it passes freezing it just darn cold anyway.
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Still cold and windy here today w/ unexpected snow in Topeka all day today.
Bump for Pat!!!!
1degree! Eeewww, lol. I guess once it passes freezing it just darn cold anyway.
Thank you for the weather update. I do plan to go when TES goes, there are five us that ride together.
Thanks every body for the kind words.
Praying for the family, for resolution, strength and peace. My heart goes out to them.
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