gitana1
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I've always wondered if TH was protecting her son somehow. The only reason I can think of for her to give up her daughter is if she was protecting her son. Maybe his friends? had something to do with it? Maybe he had information and she didn't want him involved? Thought she would protect him if she said nothing?
I wish I knew. Kyron, may the Angels hold your hand until you are found.
There is zero information to indicate that TH's minor son had anything to do with Kyron's disappearance. he did not live with her and was school-aged at the time.
If DeDe hadn't even communicated with Terri since March of 2010, why did LE make any connection between her and Terri in this case at all? Where did her name come from in the first place? I wouldn't expect any of my friends whom I didn't speak to for 4 months to pop up suddenly in a criminal case I was being investigated for if there wasn't some tangible sort of link tying my friend to me. I do remember her on facebook near the beginning but why her in particular? Any of her friends could have been at home near the school that day too. JMO
Astute observation. LE must have had something to link DS to TH at the time.
There isnt anything Houze can say or do to rehab TH in the court of public opinion. BUT she convicted herself-she chose not to participate in any discovery that would cross the criminal investigation. SHE chose to bail on her child to save herself. She is living her life praying that Kyron isnt found so that she can wait out the world as a woman who is not inside of jail. IMO.
Now that is heinous. I am trying to figure out the long term strategy here...is she trying to find a way to get out of the trap she put herself in? Is she sick of living a life under cover? 'Cause we know this isnt about the baby now toddler.
Why now? Does someone feel fairly comfortable anything of forensic value ceases to exist, COD will never be conclusive? Or perhaps even that Kyron is never going to be found? So why live like a mushroom any longer?
ITA with everything you said Ami.
I think that sadly, after DS began talking, both sides believed there may be a GJ indictment. There was not and this has empowered TH to try to gain more information about the case against her and to try to regain some rights to her daughter. She feels less threatened with an arrest and has come to realize that whatever LE has, it is not enough for the state to feel they can proceed with charges against her and it likely will not be without something more.
The goal of LE is to find Kyron. I'm not convinced he's dead. I have seen no evidence that Terri was involved just as I've seen no evidence that Kaine was not involved. The biggest red flag I see is that Kaine has refused Terri co-parenting time with her child. Such a move is emotionally cruel to the child. There are two mothers who are without their child and the commonality is that the father is the same for both children.
JMO
Do you happen to have a link? In my experience, the decisions about co-parenting are usually left to the parents so that that court doesn't have to sort-out allegations being thrown by both sides.
JMO
You are misunderstanding the process. KH filed for sole custody with no visitation based on his allegation that TH was involved in a murder for hire plot as well as the disappearance of his son.
TH clearly stated in courtroom arguments and legal pleadings she filed, which I read, that she could not participate fully in the child custody litigation because it would involve her having to answer questioned about the criminal case and to do so would incriminate her. So, rather than fight the request that she have no contact with her daughter, TH gave up her opposition and custody of her daughter in a manner that severely limited her ability to ever gain back meaningful rights to her child.
As to evidence that KH or TH were involved, it is clear that the investigation became focused on TH at some time and KH was at work when his son disappeared. We do not know what evidence LE has against TH. But that certainly doesn;t mean they have nothing.
I have always stated I believe they have enough to arrest TH but not enough for a conviction. So, they did not arrest her because her speedy trial rights would begin to tick. I'm confident they have probable cause but
they want more before the state will authorize charges.
What has changed is that her daughter is now old enough to communicate with the court directly. Do you really think Courts will decide in Terri's favor simply because she claims the father threatened her child? Proof is usually required.
I don't believe Terri knows "nothing" about what happened to Kyron. I certainly would try to protect my child and keep my mouth shut if her father threatened to harm her if I spilled the beans. I'm just speculating this occurred because I see no good reason for Kaine to refuse even supervised visitation.
JMO
I think murder and murder plots are a great reason to refuse even supervised visitation. In some cases, parents have abducted and/or killed their kids during a supervised visit.
"co-parenting" is a voluntary arrangement mutually agreeable between parents. A court approves it but doesn't negotiate it.
A no-contact order is not a voluntary arrangement between the parents.
You seem to be confusing the legal definitions.
JMO
Ma'am, there were zero co-parenting conversations or arrangements between the parties at any time. KH requested that the RO cover their daughter and he also requested that TH have no custody of or visits with their daughter. Stating she could not afford to incriminate herself, TH dropped her opposition to those requests.
i personally do not believe TMH was involved and I think her attorneys honestly believed her from the beginning as well (not just the typical defense attorney stuff). i think the decision to not fight the RO and visitation/custody at first came from her legal team for whatever reason (im not a lawyer so i don't feel comfortable posting legal reasons why this would make sense as i don't fully understand why myself). I think TMH listened to her attorney's advice. We can judge her all we want, but the fact is, Kyron still hasn't been found and there is nothing to link TMH to his disapperance at this time.
As an attorney, I can tell you that it is clear TH's attorneys believe that TH could incriminate herself if she answered questions about Kyron's disappearance. They have repeatedly argued as much.
"In sum, the court is allowing the respondent (Terri Horman) to conduct her own investigation into and discovery of the relevant facts and evidence (except for the minor students a this time) in order to prepare for the eventual trial"
Is it just me or does this judge sound pretty certain that there will be a trial eventually? If he'd said "prepare for a possible trial" or some such thing it would have been more iffy but "the eventual trial" sounds inevitable. Does he know something we don't or am I just overinterpreting?
He is speaking about the divorce trial.
I think the Judge makes it abundantly clear that the trial he is referencing is the divorce/child custody proceeding that is his responsibility. He also makes it clear his decisions are focused on what is in the best interest of REDACT and points out that she has been separated from her mother for years on the basis of allegations, none of which have resulted in a criminal proceeding.
iow, it is time for Kaine to provide real proof that Terri was/is an unfit parent.
JMO
The minor has been separated from her mother because her mother refused to participate in the proceedings. The judge did not state that the child has been separated from her mother for years due to allegations alone.
And the Judge has finally demanded proof that Terri is indeed a dangerous woman. Bravo to the Judge for recognizing that a child's best interests must prevail. Allegations are just that until they are proved. Kaine used these allegations to prevent a child from seeing her mother for years yet there still are no pending criminal charges against Terri.
JMO
The judge is simply going forward because TH has finally decided to participate. She dropped her opposition previously, you know. Also, this means the judge will be demanding that TH answer questions and prove that it is in the child's best interest to see her. And since she waited 3 years to fight for her child, she has seriously hurt her case. She will never regain primary custody of her kid, although she may get some supervised visits and possibly more eventually.
And yeah, allegations are just allegations. But if a person refuses to demand proof substantiating allegations against them, then the allegations stand.
The big difference between Terri and Scott Peterson is that he was charged with a crime when his attorney made those comments.
JMO
No, he was not.
FWIW, i wasn't talking about you, as you are the only poster here to tell me they actually respect my opinion even though they disagree, which made me feel better and made me feel I could continue posting here when you said, so thank you for that. Believe me, I throughly believed TMH was involved up to her ears in this from day one until the recent dropping of the RO and the civil case, which could have been stayed indefinitely but instead it was just dropped, this says a lot. and the fact that it's been 3 years and there still hasn't been an indictment from the grand jury on kyrons disapperance or the MFH plot.
secondly, the preponderance of everything that has been seen so far has been from the MSM which has villified TMH from day one. It will be interesting to see what discovery is released and if any of this discovery points to witnesses seeing someone else leave the school with Kyron as her attorney stated in court. If this is in fact the case, this should be made public for safety reasons as well since so far they haven't been able to identify this person or connect them to TMH.
also, TMH has a very well regarded defense attorney. we have all seen what happens when suspects or persons of interest talk and talk and talk. i see nothing wrong with TMH asserting her constitutional rights. I am as disturbed as everyone that it's taken her three years to petition for custody but I also think she was advised by her attorneys that it would be better to wait until MCSO and the DA are backed into a corner where they have to show that they really have nothing on TMH. I am outraged as well that it has taken her so long but we don't know everything that is going on beyond the scenes. She immediately hired her attorney once the MFH plot and the RO happened, which the MFH was the pressing criminal matter at that time. She didn't hire her family law attorney until sometime after that.
i also wonder whatever happened with the alleged MFH plot. If there was actual evidence that would be enough to charge her with this, or indict her, why hasn't that happened and why would the judge drop the RO if there was still a viable case against her for the MFH plot? It just doesn't add up to me.
also the judge did rule that children and teachers at the school could be deposed as to what they saw the day Kyron went missing so if the statement made by TMH's attorney that she wasn't the last person seen with Kyron at the school is true that might come to light soon.
in regards to LE lying, Kantor actually stated in open court "police do that all the time." we all know they do this for investigative purposes but how far has it gone in this case and what did they lie about? it could be anything from polygraph tests to the circumstances around the MFH plot which was announced to the media along with the RO, which is what started the media storm against TMH.
The civil case and RO could not have been stayed indefinitely.
As a family law attorney for 12 years, I have never known any parent who would willingly give up custody of their child for any length of time to avoid questioning in a criminal investigation or case, unless they are guilty of something.
The judge did not rule that TH could question any children.
He's put his divorce on hold for three years, in order to aid in the investigation. He's actually done the opposite of what you've written. He's put the investigation into his son's disappearance before his divorce. I can't think of many people who would want to remain married to someone they believe to be a murderer. He's made huge sacrifices for the investigation.
I guess I really don't understand the Kaine suspicion.
He was at work when Kyron went missing, and this was verified.
Were I Kaine, I would have asked my coworkers not to speak to the press as well. To me this is only logical in the early stages of an investigation. They should be speaking to the police, not reporters.
He cooperated with LE, he aided the investigation and he was available for LE and questioning nonstop.
When LE told him he and his daughter were in danger, he moved her to safety and protected her through legal channels. Far from focusing on his divorce, he allowed his divorce to be put on hold to help the investigation of his missing son. He put his missing son first.
As far as I can tell, he hasn't done anything suspicious at all.
That's correct. Everything he and DY have done is to aid the investigation, strategically.
i dont think he knows more than he has said. i think he refused the search because LE wasn't involved and weren't the ones searching. i think the fact they haven't spoken in 3 years also could be a factor. as to why they haven't spoke, i can only speculate but if i were DY and strongly believed Terri was directly involved in Kyron's abduction I wouldn't want to talk to the person who "let the wolf in" so to speak, either.
Precisely. And DY stated as much. She was furious at KH for not letting her know what was happening, how unhappy Kyron was and that TH had a drinking problem. She was completely devastated and horrified and livid with KH. I don't blame her.
She did not have custody of her older child either, her son from her marriage prior to Kaine.
From what I remember she went to Canada for two months in 2004 and both boys went with their dad, she did not seek custody once she returned. She then moved to I think it was Medford.
She had cancer and temporarily gave up custody while being treated, as I recall. The law in OR, however, makes it almost impossible to regain custody after a switch. For example, in CA, a significant change in custody is all that is needed. DY regaining her health would be enough. But in OR, a substantial change in custody that was unforeseen at the time the order was issued, is required for her to regain primary custody and that would include things like a showing that the child was now in danger at his dad's:
This all came out early on in the case and DY spoke about it. She asked KH to allow Kyron to return to her and he refused.The legal basis for a modification of an order regarding a parenting plan, child custody, child support, or spousal support in Oregon or Washington requires a substantial change in circumstances which was unforeseen or unanticipated at the time the original order was entered with the court. For example, in Oregon, a modification action to change child custody must be supported by evidence that the current custodial parent is unfit to provide primary care of the children and a change of custody to the other parent is in the best interests of the child.http://www.divorcenorthwest.com/modification.asp
"JOSTAD: Right. Well, apparently, he lived with his mother for the first two years of his life, but then his mother, Desiree Young, had a very serious health issue. She had kidney failure. She had to travel to Canada to be treated. So she temporarily allowed Kaine Horman, Kyron`s father, to have custody of him, I guess planning to get custody back once she was well. But after her treatments, she decided he was better with his father, things were going well. So that`s why he was living with his father and his stepmother."
http://archives.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/1007/27/ng.01.html
The reporter is incorrect. DY never simply gave up and decided the child was better with his father. At some point, once her health and other issues were resolved, she did, in fact, attempt to regain custody but she knew she would not prevail in court so she didn't file a request to modify:
Desiree’s backstory adds to the pathos. When the boy was 2 years old, Desiree suffered kidney failure she says was a result of taking a medication that was not FDA-approved—what medication, she won’t say. She went to Canada for treatment, but again has declined to give specifics. When she returned to Oregon, she tried to regain custody of Kyron and an older son from her first marriage. She was denied by Kaine and the other father, and never fought their decision in court. Desiree is now seeing a therapist to help deal with Kyron’s disappearance and has returned to work as an accountant at Lithia Motors in Medford. http://www.wweek.com/portland/article-12305-the_kyron_files.html
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I think part of her rage at KH is that had she known TH was drinking too much and mistreating Kyron, had KH been honest about that, then she would have had grounds to seek a return to her custody. of course, he didn't want to give up primary custody of Kyron.
In retrospect it is so sad. I remember DY talking about how before he disappeared, Kyron was different. He was crying and begging to stay with his mom. IMO, Kyron knew something was wrong:
"Kyron became increasingly unhappy about not spending time with me. He wanted to come live with [me and his stepdad]," Young says. "Several times he would just break down and sob because he wanted to stay." http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20401700,00.html