Salem, You are so right!!!! I also hope this is not the case. It is such a travesty for our children, that the courts side with BIOLOGY as a reason for interaction, access, and rights, but so many times, PSYCHOLOGY tells us we should not trust these people with any child, including their own.
I also agree with okGrace, there needs to be a way of checking on parents before they give birth. Drug testing should be a MUST, especially with prior convictions. I'm sorry, but you can't operate a motor vehicle with drugs or alchohol in your system, and you shouldn't be allowed to raise children with unprescribed drugs or alcohol abuse involved. People who abuse alcohol and/or drugs just do not have the capacity to make the proper decisions with a child.
I know I'm really starting to sound like "big brother watching" but there needs to be some kind of safeguard for the helpless children out there. I say that you need a licsense to drive a motorcycle, boat, car or truck. You should need at least a licsense and a parenting course before you have a baby. If you don't agree to take the class and test, you loose your rights to become a parent. Men can't see their children, and women must give them up for adoption. I AM JUST SICK OF ALL THESE PEOPLE WHO CARE SO LITTLE FOR A LIFE THAT THEY CAN JUST DISREGUARD IT IN THE BLINK OF AN EYE!!!!!
I just had to get that off my chest!!! Can you tell that I worked with abused and neglected kids in my past!:furious:
Hello All...just had to jump in on this one...
What is being suggested here is confusing to me.
janiekay is saying that there needs to be a way to check parents
before they give birth but, does that mean before they get pregnant?
What would be the result of a positive drug test on a pregnant woman? Obviously we can't have court-ordered abortions, that doesn't make sense. Would it mean that the mother should then be jailed until she gives birth? And then what? Would the child be taken away then and placed into an already messed up, overcrowded, dysfunctional foster care system? Or placed up for adoption? There are already
many abused, abandoned or unwanted children waiting for good homes. Face it, most people do not want to take on a child who has been abused, neglected or abandoned or is the offspring of a person who abuses drugs or alcohol. Not even an infant that may have been exposed to god knows what in utero. There are many stories about genetic pre-dispositions to violence or drug abuse so people are afraid to take on that challenge, especially if they already have children of their own. Imagine taking away all the children born to unlicensed parents and placing them up for adoption. Where would they live? Who would pay for their medical care, clothing, food, etc?
Licenses or parenting courses are a good idea but good luck getting better than 50% participation. People will have sex and get pregnant without the license, just like some people drive without a license. In fact, it is the person who would refuse to get the license or take the course who would probably be more likely to make a poor parent. There is no way you can take away a person's "right to have a child". Mandatory sterilization is also impossible, it will never happen. So, how would you prevent the un-licensed person from becoming pregnant? No matter what we would like to see, procreation is the human being's strongest instinct. Not to mention, the way we glorify sex in our country especially, people will do it "just for fun".
The way that I see it is that as a society we would need to be willing to adopt these kids or we would have to be willing to pay massive taxes to house and raise them. Also we would have to have mandatory sterilization for unfit or unlicensed people of child-bearing age. Can you imagine the lawsuits? Can you imagine the backlash of parents of teenagers sterilized because they got busted smoking pot or getting drunk?
It will never happen.
They only way child abuse and neglect will stop is when parents value their children above all else.
All parents would have to love and nurture and care for their children. The cycle would have to be broken and it would have to be broken because people
want to break it.
It would cost us all tons of our hard earned money in taxes but the only way I see this happening is by making it lucrative to be a good parent. Pay people to take the classes and get the licenses. Reward people for good parenting. Society would have to shun people who refuse to cooperate. It would take many generations but eventually the numbers would change.
Of course, there will always be those who are mentally ill or who refuse to comply but there would be far fewer cases than what we see today.
Think it is possible??