fridaybaker
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IMO older men who go to Asia to find wives tend to have some things in common: Frustration/anger with women in their own country who they see as being "too independent" and a desire for someone young, submissive, and in an easily exploitable financial situation who will cook, clean, and respect the man's authority. When traveling throughout Asia I encountered many rather pathetic-seeming middle-aged or older American men with beautiful very young women. Mostly the kinds of awkward, un-charismatic men who would have a hard time finding a girlfriend in the States. None of those couples seemed remotely happy at least from an outside observer perspective- lots of silent, scowling dinners, etc. From what I've seen on her social media, Jenny doesn't fit the stereotype at all. She seemed quite independent and outspoken. I wonder about her coming to the States, improving her English, getting her green card, finishing school, and how these things may have given her confidence and changed the dynamic of her relationship (or arrangement) with JR. I wonder if he felt duped in some ways, like he didn't get what he expected. MOO, pure speculation.
Just HAVE to respond. My better half and I met online. We were both getting close to middle age, and looking for a "serious" marriage partner -not "dating", "company", a "relationship", etc. For those who have never done such a thing, it really is different: Everything is sort of opposite to how that happens normally. You set your "demographic" requirements, such as age, religion, nationality, etc. vs. just "hitting it off" with someone. Hitting it off with someone often makes those demographics just go away -they just aren't important, because you already know, or know early on, that you're compatible. The online approach, by necessity, requires those things up front, as a way of "starting somewhere".
To get back to the point, my husband's friend advised him to set his requirements to Asian, because "Asian women are more obedient." No, I'm not kidding. I think it my husband's friend's opinion reflects everything that bajatacos is saying here, and likely would manifest itself in the people mentioned on the travels throughout Asia.
I also agree that all of the subsequent things -improving her English, getting her green card, etc., might make her become much more independent than she was when she first met JR.