Well, I must be in the minority. I think this entire thing is beyond cruel toward his mother. I think it's all very grandiose and if he hasn't been diagnosed with anything more than depression, then I also think there is at least another diagnosis that was missed or he is coming into another mental illness (I skimmed over all the philosophy and his arguments). Hopefully he will be found before he does it and he can accept help.
I have so much to say after reading a couple of chapters in his book and his letters, but I can't even begin to put all my thoughts and feelings into words. As someone who has suffered from depression for more than 20 years and being suicidal three times, as recently as this past month...I understand the pain that someone who is depressed and suicidal feels.
I'm sorry if what I say offends anyone here, but he has no guilt and no conscience for anyone. He is a mean and vile person. I could never imagine some of the things that were written in his "book" or the "goodbye" letters to his family, which were callous, hurtful, cruel and selfish, would help anyone come to terms with his suicide or their grief.
As someone earlier stated, maybe this is his thesis- if it is, I wouldn't be able to begin to express my anger at him. I would put him in the category of some of the worst offenders we read about on this site and what they've done to others.
I don't think I've read something and felt this way about anything or anyone before that has affected me as much as this has.
*hugs*
I am struggling to contain judgment (of him, not you!), i admit it.
As much as it pains me to say it, his "book" read like Elliott Rodgers' manifesto in some ways. Clearly, Kegan is (or was) very intelligent, self obsessed, and ill.
I'd also like to know more about the last FB entry where it is stated that it was written by a friend at Kegan's request. Who is this friend and why did he or she play along? Or perhaps that part was fictional, I don't know.
Good question, actually. Because he seems smart enough to know you can schedule a post in advance, and wouldn't need someone to do it on his behalf.*hugs*
I am struggling to contain judgment (of him, not you!), i admit it.
As much as it pains me to say it, his "book" read like Elliott Rodgers' manifesto in some ways. Clearly, Kegan is (or was) very intelligent, self obsessed, and ill.
I'd also like to know more about the last FB entry where it is stated that it was written by a friend at Kegan's request. Who is this friend and why did he or she play along? Or perhaps that part was fictional, I don't know.
He says the friend was his roommate. Instructions for his roommate are in the letters.
I am sorry for your suffering. I really do understand where you are.I have so much to say after reading a couple of chapters in his book and his letters, but I can't even begin to put all my thoughts and feelings into words. As someone who has suffered from depression for more than 20 years and being suicidal three times, as recently as this past month...I understand the pain that someone who is depressed and suicidal feels.
I'm sorry if what I say offends anyone here, but he has no guilt and no conscience for anyone. He is a mean and vile person. I could never imagine some of the things that were written in his "book" or the "goodbye" letters to his family, which were callous, hurtful, cruel and selfish, would help anyone come to terms with his suicide or their grief.
As someone earlier stated, maybe this is his thesis- if it is, I wouldn't be able to begin to express my anger at him. I would put him in the category of some of the worst offenders we read about on this site and what they've done to others.
I don't think I've read something and felt this way about anything or anyone before that has affected me as much as this has.
This reminds me of a friend I lost almost 10 years ago. Graduated from a great school in the Midwest, got a job, and the weekend before he was to start, he killed himself. He didn't want to go to work, didn't want the stress, etc.
Kegan clearly struggled in ways that most of us simply accept or find some kind of adaptation that allows us to live with what we have trouble accepting. The treatise/manifesto is pretty brazenly self-absorbed and he is probably correct to say that maintaining functional adult relationships would be difficult given his attitudes, especially if he comes off in person the way he comes off in his writings.
There has to be a co-morbid mental health diagnosis beyond depression - seems also reminiscent of obsessive-compulsive disorder, bipolar, or something similar - jmo.
I wonder if he had a car. If so, then wouldn't someone find his car eventually?
All jmo.
This reminds me of a friend I lost almost 10 years ago. Graduated from a great school in the Midwest, got a job, and the weekend before he was to start, he killed himself. He didn't want to go to work, didn't want the stress, etc.
Kegan clearly struggled in ways that most of us simply accept or find some kind of adaptation that allows us to live with what we have trouble accepting. The treatise/manifesto is pretty brazenly self-absorbed and he is probably correct to say that maintaining functional adult relationships would be difficult given his attitudes, especially if he comes off in person the way he comes off in his writings.
There has to be a co-morbid mental health diagnosis beyond depression - seems also reminiscent of obsessive-compulsive disorder, bipolar, or something similar - jmo.