one reason a mother who was awarded sole custody might "willingly" give visitation and say dad is a "good father" -- he might be extorting, blackmailing, threatening to harm her, someone in her family(sister, parent) the kids.. he may have some dirt on her parents or something. this is happening in my aunt's family. the ex-husband has them all by the you-know-whats and they are at his mercy. he has some kind of dirt on one of them -- don't know what it is, but when he sas dance, they dance. also, TS has the RSO - huge. he was OK with her being RSO while they were married, but as soon as the divorce starts, she's an unfit mother? that is a huge chunk of power in his court. as for the JS family saying "i love you" in messages, etc. empty phrase for a lot of families these days. think of all the times the Anthony family has spouted this crap. lots of talking the talk, no walking the walk. love is an action, not a word, IMO.