There's a few things that continue stand out to me as odd:
1. Why didn't she text the friend about being pulled over when she stopped to get gas? Why didn't she text anyone about anything (pulled over, low on gas, wrong part of KC) while she was stopped to get gas?
2. Why, if she supposedly had cash on hand from tips at work, did she use her debit card at the gas station? Doesn't make sense for the "disappearance" theory to be using a debit/credit card. Surely the tips she posted on disappearing mention not leaving a trail by using bank cards. Also, if she was planning to disappear that night wouldn't she have cash she's saved up with her - in addition to cash from work that night?
3. After seeing interviews with her parents they appear to be close - especially Toni and her mom. I just don't get the feeling that she would put her mom through this "torture" as her mother describes it. Plus, if LE had evidence that she's okay but doesn't want to be found, they wouldn't continue to appear to be engaging in an investigation, leave her parents hanging, and make statements about an "ongoing investigation" if they had evidence that she left and doesn't want to be bothered.
4. Last, but not least, I am really having trouble with her phone records. Supposedly her last known correspondence was at 4:53 am and then nothing for over 16 hours until her phone dies at 9:30 pm. NO ONE AT ALL texted or called her in all that time not even once they started to suspect she was missing?! I can't believe the people she was supposed to meet weren't calling or texting saying they were waiting and asking where she was. I really can't understand this at all. If my child is 30 minutes late getting home I'm texting her asking where she is and why she's late, yet no one texted or called Toni in 16 hours?! Unless there are records of calls and/or texts and LE isn't releasing this info this is just bizarre to me.
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1. We don't factually know exactly when she texted her friend in relation to the pullover at this point. So, if she got pulled over a second time AFTER she left, that might be the reason it's confusing to us? (dashcam and surveillance timestamps could prove this as fact)
2. Because it's likely she wasn't actually out of gas, but after getting out of a ticket she might want to LOOK like she was getting gas? Also, it makes sense that she'd wait until she felt she was in the clear BEFORE texting her friend. When she went into the gas station, she was likely very aware of the cop watching her do so. Her current concern was "looking like she was pumping gas" etc. Why? because it would be the reason that got her out of the ticket. But we don't even know if she pumped gas or not. Or factually what time. So there is still that.
3. I think there's quite a bit of evidence that Toni wasn't adverse to doing things that would make her mother uncomfortable. Also, we'd really have to understand why she was trying to disappear before we can properly weight that decision in comparison to her mother's feelings. -- please watch this CI informants video and here a mother talk about how she didn't know her daughter was a drug informant.
https://www.democracynow.org/2013/2/20/throwaways_recruited_by_police_thrown_into - Then take a moment to consider that these kids that become CIs can't even tell their parents in many cases. The one in this video, the daughter didn't tell her BECAUSE she didn't want to worry her about the possibilities.
3b. IF she was a CI, would the police want to say that was the reason they believe she was ok? I'd imagine if she was a CI, they might still be in the dark about whether she skipped town or was killed. But... watch that video and listen to the mother, and you'll see the police had no interest in revealing that aspect to the media etc.
4. We don't know any of this, other than what we have been told. But I completely agree it'd be odd. But just like everything else in this case, keeping us informed on those kinds of details has proven to not be a priority. I think it's likely that she got many texts later that day, but the ones around the time we see HER last text, are obviously the ones that we should be most concerned with. But yep, I agree, its bizarre if they weren't asking "Where are you?" etc
I know this CI thing is hard for some to even consider. When I first heard it, it was not something I even knew much about, so was more ignorant then than now. (still might be ignorant of the full scope, haha)
But if we are going to test our theories and speculation about her purposefully disappearing, maybe the most important factor would be -- why? Why was she wanting to disappear? Why would that be so horrific that she's put her mother/family/friends through this? I think we can all agree, it'd make sense if she felt trapped and the alternative might be *death*. So watch the CI video I posted above and I ask you to just consider the idea that Toni was a CI and was aware of the risk her life was in. It would just take me seeing one story about a CI being killed to be paranoid about when I got fingered as a snitch.
See the 2014 account of a KCMO snitch who was fingered and what happened to him. However, I don't think you even need to know about that, if you were a CI, to know that your life was in danger the moment someone KNEW you were a CI. I think that conclusion is rather easy to understand without a video. So... if that was the context, I think that would be a damn good reason WHY I'd want to disappear.
Lastly, I know I keep mentioning CI, but it's because if she disappeared and I want to test that theory, I need a WHY. It's the most probable WHY that I can think of.
But... if anyone else has a decent WHY as to the reason she'd want to disappear, I'm still open to hearing it. But so far, unless that is the WHY, I have a hard time believing she tried to disappear.
I know it seems like I am convinced she was a CI based on my bringing it up often
-- however, I am not. I am simply evaluating the probability, and I think that if she did want to disappear, the reason would have to be of mortal consequence. Which is why CI makes the most sense to me, based on what we know about Toni.
Not married to all this, but do think currently it's the most probable WHY, if she actually did choose to disappear.
