Fran and others,
Given the situation before Nancy's death, these two were in the process of dissolving their marriage. That was no secret to anybody. The love had died; she was going back to Canada, and he was moving on with his life. I doubt very much if she had died of natural causes Brad would have made much of a fuss about who got Nancy's remains or where she was buried. And I also doubt he would have put up much of a fight about the children going to Canada to attend a service with their mother's family members.
The only reason he took the passports to begin with (preventing the children from going to Canada) was in fear of Nancy fleeing with them and therefore getting more favorable custody provisions. He admits her attorney told her that would be the case. Remember: this was ALL about money...as in an unfavorable separation agreement as it stood at TOD. Unfavorable for Brad.
If she had died of natural causes, there would be no custody battle...so kids would go to Canada with family to bury Nancy. Brad may not have attended EVEN THEN! Does this make sense?? So, to answer Fran's question, he didn't/doesn't care enough about Nancy to give a hoot about her ashes, where she's buried or anything else. But I do believe he wants his children.
Buuuttttttt!!!!!!!!
BRAD said he LOVED NANCY in his affidavit. THEY were TRYING TO WORK IT OUT, is what he said.
WHICH time is he lying, either by words or actions? He either LOVED her and would have attended her services OR he did NOT love her and was well rid of her, WHICH would mean he was lying in the affidavit.
Oh.....about the passport situation. During March and early April, Brad had told Nancy she could leave, take the kids with you to Canada and he never wanted to see ANY of them again. (I don't have exact links, but I KNOW it's in there somewhere).
Nancy sees an attorney for LEGAL separation and the FIRST draft of SEPARATION 'apparently' was rejected by SOMEONE, as the one we have in our Legal Documents thread is the SECOND draft. The second draft, IIRC, was dated April 18. It was shortly after, when Nancy emailed a copy to Brad. THAT is when Brad went to his own attorney, started being 'nice,' took the passports so Nancy couldn't leave with the children, the friends changed the Nancy's going away party to something else.
IMHO, the only 'fear' Brad had of Nancy taking off to Canada had absolutely NOTHING to do with his WANTING the children. It had EVERYTHING to do with him having to PAY. It was about the MONEY. It was HIS and he NO LONGER was willing to share it with Nancy and the girls. He proved that when he started doling out the 'allowance.' He proved that, when he began docking her when she earned extra.
THIS is and was always about BRAD and what HE wants. It was NEVER about Nancy to him. IMHO, now Nancy is
ERASED and Brad's problems are solved..................imho....................or so HE thought.
Brad has a degree, but in all that course work, didn't teach him how to get away with murder. Which, he'll soon find out, IMHO.
Details.
JMHO
fran