I know what you mean...As soon as I typed that, I thought about it...retyped it, deleted..then left it as it was. Because although you're right.. having lost 2 children myself, I thought for a long time that
nothing could be worse. As years have passed, I don't believe that anymore though. Even with the death of a child (or any loved one) things often are still relative, I believe anyway. Not knowing whether my child was alive or dead would be worse, having a child murdered would be worse..having a child murdered with unspeakable events beforehand would be worse. Even losing a child that is a young adult would be worse (or even harder to handle may be a better way to put it) than when they were still an infant..Anyway, that's all I meant..