moonlessnight
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I believe the mother in this case may need trauma informed care for potential domestic abuse. This article about trauma informed care nicely elucidates the stages of trauma care. Forgiveness occurs in part three. Part one and two coming first in the intervention before forgiveness. My position is that forgiveness should not be the only form of treatment or the first, as trauma first aid (psychological and emotional) needs to come first. There is a place for forgiveness, but not as a first step.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK207184/
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK207184/
Very fine post -- I am thankful to say that I have never been abused, but Forgiveness Therapy makes a lot of sense. I've read many accounts where the abused essentially blames herself (himself) for the abuse -- dinner was too late, the house was a mess, I forgot to pick up the laundry, etc. -- but the abused needs to let go of self-blame, and I can understand why it is so freeing. And I'm sure it's a hard thing to do.
Thanks for presenting it. And yes, this mother in this case may indeed need it, if that's what we're dealing with here -- and that car window biznezz surely makes it sound very possible.