lets look at the flip side also. My niece is bi racial, and my sister and the father are divorced... My Grandparents never spoke to my sister again. My niece is an honor roll student, cheerleader, a beauty in every sense of the word, but they were old fashioned in their thinking and that was that, dont discuss it, dont talk about it period.
BUT, after a time, my niece wanted to go live with her Dad. She wanted to be with him for reasons that shocked all of us. She felt more comfortable with them, they looked more like her, etc. Its hard to explain without sounding strange to some or racial... Maybe Shaniyas family thought they were helping her by giving her the benefit of both cultures that she was born into..I know this is very touchy, and I dont want to stereotype or offend, just speaking from a personal standpoint. We were shocked that she felt this way,but at the same time, we understood, it was a part of who she is, so off she went..Sad time for everyone. Maybe Shaniyas Dad was thinking the same thing. ( please dont throw tomatoes)