Jmoose
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BBM: Not suggesting anyone in this case is involved in WP. Not sure where the "95%" comes from, but I would add "and their families." I was using it to suggest the range of emotions that can come up between those who leave and those they left behind. IOW, it's not just "longing" and "family feeling" and "lost friendship" that separate them, sometime it's more. I am not even imagining a precise scenario, just saying the feelings aren't always benign. I think it's natural to assume positive feelings motivate a party to want to reconnect with someone they lost, but there's also blame, vengeance, fear (e.g., "don't know where this person is and they know something about me that can hurt me"), and who knows what else. Depending on why the person left, even positive motivation to reconnect may not feel positive to them. I was just letting my imagination run to illustrate how little we know.
I have thought of this, too-we really don't know what is going on here. Let me do a little wild speculating (this isn't necessarily what I think is going on, though)-suppose there is an estate, left behind by the parents, for Sylvia and her brother. Sylvia has been gone for 38 years with no family contact that we know of-they share equally in the estate unless one is no longer alive. In that case, I assume the surviving sibling receives 100%, if inheritance goes like it typically does. Why, then, wouldn't he want to have her declared dead? She has been gone long enough, and this would be the most likely bad case scenario for finding someone who appears to be dead, but may be alive. There is no physical evidence, but to me, all signs point to Sylvia being dead, even though I realize that people have resurfaced years later.