GoingByMyGut
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These quotes have been trimmed by me and BBM:
Oops. Posted this before I wrote anything! So all ETA.
BBM1 & BBM2: I am still struggling with all of the above. The picture of SL on the beach, the perfect student, lover of animals and children, practiced musician ... how does that fit with "the kick"? I see that as a disconnect.
As to loner, we are only hearing of a history with one friend. I think it's possible to move with a group and still not be connected, but who knows what the truth was.
BBM3: You're right, Skeet, that's an interesting 3-way connection we haven't really looked at, have we ... SL, JL Sr., SL's friends. Amazing to still pull something new from all of this. Nicely done. I mean, I know we discussed JL Sr. working at Wagner, but not how that effected SL. Was he an embarrassing presence to her on campus (the way so many kids see their parents)? How does that fit with the Cinderella-like picture of SL? And how does the universally experienced embarrassment over a parent lead to a "the kick"? IMO, it's not the typical response ...
Really, for me, "the kick" only connects with one other fact that we're aware of -- throwing the glasses on the dashboard -- and that is suspect for so many other reasons. What are we missing? Or what am I missing? Is it possible that, as a consequence of the times and SL being a young woman who did not easily get to know others deeply, people developed a superficial, idealized view of who she was? Are "the kick" and the "glasses" chinks of light in an otherwise murky portrait?
I would think she was close with her sorority and the band? That was a nice image that ASWDH gave of SL reading to the blind at the beach, doing good deeds with her sorority.
IMO -These two events, party and disappearance are way too close on the timeline for this group not to know she is missing. Was she shunned by people who could not separate an incident from a person? Why? College years are full of mortifying experiences. -To me, this does not add up to Sylvia, the disciplined college grad, or musician in two groups. She was not a loner without friends. -Was she?
Yes you are right father worked at Wagner. Don't know what his job title was maybe MMQC would know? Oh my, could that be another reason why Sylvia was especially angry with her father about the pool party incident? Her father worked at the same college she attended. Friends might tell other friends on campus about about what happened causing more embarrassment.
Oops. Posted this before I wrote anything! So all ETA.
BBM1 & BBM2: I am still struggling with all of the above. The picture of SL on the beach, the perfect student, lover of animals and children, practiced musician ... how does that fit with "the kick"? I see that as a disconnect.
As to loner, we are only hearing of a history with one friend. I think it's possible to move with a group and still not be connected, but who knows what the truth was.
BBM3: You're right, Skeet, that's an interesting 3-way connection we haven't really looked at, have we ... SL, JL Sr., SL's friends. Amazing to still pull something new from all of this. Nicely done. I mean, I know we discussed JL Sr. working at Wagner, but not how that effected SL. Was he an embarrassing presence to her on campus (the way so many kids see their parents)? How does that fit with the Cinderella-like picture of SL? And how does the universally experienced embarrassment over a parent lead to a "the kick"? IMO, it's not the typical response ...
Really, for me, "the kick" only connects with one other fact that we're aware of -- throwing the glasses on the dashboard -- and that is suspect for so many other reasons. What are we missing? Or what am I missing? Is it possible that, as a consequence of the times and SL being a young woman who did not easily get to know others deeply, people developed a superficial, idealized view of who she was? Are "the kick" and the "glasses" chinks of light in an otherwise murky portrait?