SeekingJana
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Is it OK if I weigh in here regarding the likelihood of suicide? I have a Master's degree in Behavioral Psychology. Counseling was my " second career" until my best friend, who owned the practice with her physician husband, died not even 6 months after she'd buried her husband. I miss her ( and him) a lot more than I miss the client work, and I LOVED the work.
ROY was Bi- Polar. I don't know anything else about his mental health, but Tony said his dad was bi-polar and didn't want to take his medication, which is a hallmark feature of Bi-Polar patients. When they feel really good, they don't want their feelings and emotions blunted by the medications. It's part of the illness to be resistant to taking the medication long term. ( Plus the meds. have side effects for most people).
Ray didn't have any of these symptoms of either Depression or of Bi-Polar disorder, which is also genetic linked in distribution of cases.
It's my belief that if he planned suicide or committed suicide impulsively, he'd do it right there in his home or his car. Not out in the wilds to have the animals pick over his remains. He KNEW what happens to a body out in the open. Most people will pick a comfortable place to die, if they have a choice in the matter.
Also, he and his brother were not swimmers to any extent. That's one reason Ray didn't believe his brother committed suicide- the fear of the water would cause him to seek another method. This is a thought process of high viability.
Most people do want comfort in their final moments of life, however they die. I'm afraid of heights to the point of not wanting to vacation in the mountains, so I'd not be one to jump off or out of a building to my self- directed death.
Ray may be right. Roy, despite his son saying was bi- polar and hating his meds, may have been a victim of foul play. I tend to think his death was suicide because of the Bi- Polar disorder, which ALSO has a high genetic link and is more correct to say when discussing the family's genetic traits instead of " Roy was depressed". No, Roy had a chemical imbalance of the brain called Bi- Polar disorder.
There are no known signs that Ray inherited Bi- Polar disorder or was more susceptible to Major Depression than the average person. I'm sure he did give weight to Roy's diagnosis, as Roy did take Rx medication. It's harder for a layperson who tends to disbelieve psych. disorders when there's a lifelong prescription medication needed to keep the disorder stable and in check.
I put suicide at the lowest of the choices, around 1% because--" Past behavior is a good predictor of future behavior" especially by the age of 59 ( I should know, as I'm now 60) and there is NO indication that Ray was a person suffering from either Major Depression or Bi- Polar disorder.
Also, if a person argues for suicide, then you have to explain where the body went and how it got there. THIS is one of the stickiest points against both murder and suicide. Lack of even one bone or scrap of clothing left behind. ( The laptop is a totally different issue. It was not ON his body, therefore would not be an artifact of death).
Respectfully posted in memory of Mr. Roy Gricar and with great respect to my fellow posters and to Mr. Ray Gricar.
ROY was Bi- Polar. I don't know anything else about his mental health, but Tony said his dad was bi-polar and didn't want to take his medication, which is a hallmark feature of Bi-Polar patients. When they feel really good, they don't want their feelings and emotions blunted by the medications. It's part of the illness to be resistant to taking the medication long term. ( Plus the meds. have side effects for most people).
Ray didn't have any of these symptoms of either Depression or of Bi-Polar disorder, which is also genetic linked in distribution of cases.
It's my belief that if he planned suicide or committed suicide impulsively, he'd do it right there in his home or his car. Not out in the wilds to have the animals pick over his remains. He KNEW what happens to a body out in the open. Most people will pick a comfortable place to die, if they have a choice in the matter.
Also, he and his brother were not swimmers to any extent. That's one reason Ray didn't believe his brother committed suicide- the fear of the water would cause him to seek another method. This is a thought process of high viability.
Most people do want comfort in their final moments of life, however they die. I'm afraid of heights to the point of not wanting to vacation in the mountains, so I'd not be one to jump off or out of a building to my self- directed death.
Ray may be right. Roy, despite his son saying was bi- polar and hating his meds, may have been a victim of foul play. I tend to think his death was suicide because of the Bi- Polar disorder, which ALSO has a high genetic link and is more correct to say when discussing the family's genetic traits instead of " Roy was depressed". No, Roy had a chemical imbalance of the brain called Bi- Polar disorder.
There are no known signs that Ray inherited Bi- Polar disorder or was more susceptible to Major Depression than the average person. I'm sure he did give weight to Roy's diagnosis, as Roy did take Rx medication. It's harder for a layperson who tends to disbelieve psych. disorders when there's a lifelong prescription medication needed to keep the disorder stable and in check.
I put suicide at the lowest of the choices, around 1% because--" Past behavior is a good predictor of future behavior" especially by the age of 59 ( I should know, as I'm now 60) and there is NO indication that Ray was a person suffering from either Major Depression or Bi- Polar disorder.
Also, if a person argues for suicide, then you have to explain where the body went and how it got there. THIS is one of the stickiest points against both murder and suicide. Lack of even one bone or scrap of clothing left behind. ( The laptop is a totally different issue. It was not ON his body, therefore would not be an artifact of death).
Respectfully posted in memory of Mr. Roy Gricar and with great respect to my fellow posters and to Mr. Ray Gricar.