My theory about how it could have been Patsy Ramsey.
I'm still sorting it out and will post questions if anyone has the answer to it will be helpful. I submitted a thread about this but it didn't get approved I guess (I don't see it up) so I'm just going to rewrite it here.
There has been a theory out there that Patsy Ramsey lost her temper because Jonbenet peed her pants and this is what set her off in a rage. She then staged the scene to cover up her mistake. This is a reasonable idea but I thought of something that seemed more believable to me than Jonbenet just peeing her pants.
Many years ago my son developed encopresis.
http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/behavior/encopresis.html
He was right about the age of Jonbenet and I had never heard of it before. In fact when I went to the doctor he didn't mention it either. It was only because a friend of mine's daughter was studying to be a nurse and coincidentally had studied it a week before I mentioned it to her that I was able to figure out what it was.
Basically encopresis is a condition in childhood related to going poop. Usually the child will suffer constipation and then they don't go to the bathroom. What happens is the stool blockage developes liquefied feces behind it and then it will suddenly seep out of the anus and gush through the kids clothes.
It is absolutely disgusting to deal with and it did send me over the edge a few times. Just to clarify, I lost my cool with my son many times, screaming at the top of my lungs when he'd do this. At first I thought he was just regressing or not remembering to go to the bathroom. This is a common misconception among parents who deal with this issue. I know I'm projecting my own ideas and reactions here, but I'm also considering that if this happened to Jonbenet while she was "pageant girl" this could be a huge shock to Patsy. Again, there's a huge difference in reaction between a kid peeing their pants and dealing with encopresis. When it happened to us it was shocking and really freaked me out because I had never heard of such a thing. My reaction to my son doing this was much much more intense than it would have been if he just peed his pants.
So some clues that I'm not sure I have correctly, feel free to correct them, that I think indicate this may be what happened.
A. There were several incidents where Patsy told the housekeepers to clean up Burke's feces. The poop smeared on the chocolates etc. I'm wondering if it was really Jonbenet's feces (how would they know the difference) and Patsy blamed it on Jonbenet to save face. It's easier to blame it on a boy.
(Question: Were the feces found tested and found to be Burke's or Jonbenets)
B. There were no sized fitting underwear in Jonbenet's drawer. This was a common problem with my own son. When they soil the underwear you really just throw it out. There's no saving it the way the seepage comes out. It's filthy and sewagey smelling. My son never had size fitting underwear in the drawer. We'd go through a weeks worth of underwear in two days and have to throw it out. And because you are so desperate about underwear all the time, you hang onto any pairs you have just in case you have an emergency. This would explain why she had other non fitting sizes in there as well.
http://jonbenetramsey.pbworks.com/w/page/11682456/Clothing
C. There were several cases of Jonbenet coming home with another kids underwear on and hers in a bag. This was a common occurance in my case as well.
D. The discrepancy between whether Jonbenet was molested. Most women know that you have to be careful when teaching girls to go to the bathroom that they must not wipe from back to front. This can cause a urinary tract infection. Jonbenet had many UTIs. I'm wondering if the damage to her vagina was her mother douching her after such accidents to try to prevent the bacteria from lingering in there. In other words, there are indications that she had had someone handling her vagina, but not quite in a way that showed sexual abuse. If Patsy scrubbed her intensely there, it could have caused these indicators. Jonbenet also complained of abdominal pain several times which is a symptom of encopresis. (see link above) Below is a link to the doctor's visits notes.
http://www.city-data.com/forum/true...-ramsey-unsolved-murder-67.html#ixzz2y2Jt6b9l
E. Pineapple is a natural diuretic. One that a kid would eat over prunes or drinking prune juice. I used to feed my son pineapple to try to help regulate his digestive system. Why did Patsy lie about the pineapple? She obviously ate it? Pineapple could have caused another accident and that's why Patsy lied about it. In other words, in her mind, the pineapple was related to the accident which is why she killed her and this is why she refuses to acknowledge it.
https://www.akronchildrens.org/cms/tips/stool_accidents_encopresis/
F. The heart drawn on Jonbenet's hand. Obviously because of how well it was drawn Jonbenet didn't draw it herself. Someone drew it for her. One thing parents sometimes do is to draw something on the child's hand to remind them to go to the bathroom in case they get caught up in playing and forget to go, leading to an accident. Patsy adamently states Jonbenet didn't do this but then she goes on to explain a ritual cleaning they did before pagents. She mentions using nail polish remover to wipe off the marker. Why have such a harsh chemical be to the "go to choice" to clean off Jonbenet if she never drew on her hand?
Here's a link for the interview
About that red heart on JonBenet's hand - Forums For Justice
Jonbenet was not wearing the clothes that she had worn to the Christmas party even though they said they put her straight to bed. So where are those clothes?
Could Jonbenet have eaten the Pineapple and then had another accident of encopresis and Patsy flipped out on her in the bathroom and killed her?
One more clue is that the blanket was from the dryer which indicates someone was going around looking for "cleaned clothes" during the murder.
This is my theory so far. I think the clues add up in a meaningful way.
There are a few things I'd like to know
A. Why the doctor never noticed the issue (Maybe Patsy didn't tell him what was really happening because she was ashamed)
B. Did anyone notice this incident? (Many of my friends had no idea my son was doing this. I would get in the habit of taking extra underwear with me and wrapping the soiled ones in a plastic bag and then just throwing them out when we left the house)
C. Why no one smelled it. It's a strong smell. (Maybe she didn't have it as severely as my son)
D. What kind of clean up Patsy would have had to do that morning.
F. Why wasn't there any detection of feces on Jonbenet's body. I would find it hard to believe that Patsy was able to clean it all off of her.
OK that's what I've come up with.