Sadly you're probably right. She sounds too decent to have dumped him by text, which with hindsight would have been the safest way.
Yup, but then again, I doubt that would've been the end of it because Pistorious would've started pestering her again with texts, etc, and saying all sorts of manipulative stuff to draw her back into the relationship again. My ex used to do that with me .. no sooner had I thought I had got out of the relationship than he was texting or phoning me, telling me things like he had had an accident (fallen over and bashed his head on something) and that he was in a really bad way/wasn't sure if he had concussion, and that he didn't have anyone else that could help him, etc, etc, etc .. so they try and make you feel guilty and you end up being drawn back in again .. in my case, I told him I would come out and see if he was ok .. which he wasn't, but it wasn't down to being concussed but from having had a skinful of drink .. but then somehow or other we ended up spending all day at the hospital, because he was pretending to be concussed and I wasn't sure to start off with if he was or he wasn't but he turned out not to be, but then somehow or another I ended up being drawn back in again, yet I told him at that point that I was only going to help him 'as a friend'. Sadly, It doesn't work like that though, because they start on that whole thing of manipulating you again and the whole cycle starts again. It can also depend on where you yourself are in life .. I was at a fairly vulnerable point in my life when I met him, so he was able to manipulate me more easily than would've been at any other point in my life .. had it been now, or previously, I would've just told him to sod off*, even if he was in a bad way or thought he had been concussed, because I'm normally a much stronger person and wouldn't be taken in by such a load of old rot .. but at at time, and when you are with these types of people, they wear you down so much and they twist your mind so much that you don't know which way is up, and you end up just being drawn back in again .. and that is what I think would've happened to Reeva if she had texted him to say it's off, he would've tried all sorts of things to draw her back in again and I think there is evidence of that already having happened in their relationship .. definitely on one occasion, and probably more times. I think she wanted 'out' before, going by some of her whatsapp messages, but ended up going back in and you can see from what she was saying that she just wasn't at all sure about it, she was having a struggle trying to work out whether Pistorius was ok or not, and that's because of his Jekyll and Hyde nature. Seriously, she was doomed right from the start .. poor girl :-(
* I doubt even that would've worked though because these types of people are obsessed, and even if I had told him to sod off I very much doubt he would've done .. and it's only whey *they* decide the relationship is over that they will actually let it drop. That was the time when I was able to get out of my abusive/violent relationship was when
he decided he had had enough .. he sent me a 12 page email telling me how horrible I was, how he thought I had raped him (yep, really .. that is what he accused me of) and then he stopped all communication with me ... thank god! Finally I was allowed to go free. It really is just the luck of the draw who you get involved with, and if anyone had ever said to me years ago that I would end up in a relationship like that, I wouldn't have believed them because, to me, I was a strong person and always thought I would never stand for any of that kind of nonsense .. but that's not how it works, and it was a very hard lesson for me because I was always one of those to say 'but why doesn't she just leave him' if ever I heard about a woman who had been in such a relationship. Now I know different!
