Yeah. If Travis were an abuser, he'd be the one facing trial for murdering her. Some of the antics she pulled and then to claim abuse on top of it? Ask any real abuse victim, anywhere, if they'd feel safe enough to slash their abuser's tires.
I know many here have either first hand experience with abuse or knowledge from other experiences and have said the same thing; that abuse victims don't go in search of their abusers, nor do they even dare to antagonize them. In my own experience I have altered my driving routes for 8 years now in order to bypass the TOWN where my abuser lives. Geographically this means a 30 minute detour over less than well maintained roads to reach destinations east of my place. I had friends living in the same town where he did who I no longer see because I won't drive there. Because my situation was and continues to be threatening, however subtle his attempts are at times, unpredictable and perilous should I dare to cross him/his friends/his family, I told no one outside law enforcement. This frustrated and angered friends who couldn't understand my unwillingness to visit them.
I am kept in the loop via law enforcement and Victim's Aid about what car he drives, any change in address, any infractions landing him in jail, anything pertinent to my personal safety. I don't shop where he is known to shop, and living in a rural area this is a problem, but a problem I am willing to deal with because I will do nothing that could put me in physical proximity of him. Although usually unemployed, when he is working I avoid anything to do with those places. At one time he was employed briefly with food service at our local college. I was still working on completing my PhD but would NOT step foot on campus to visit an advisor, the library, or colleagues. A lot of this is driven by my fear, but equally so by NEVER ever wanting to share air space with him. Never, ever wanting him to see me, to know ANYTHING about me. I would NEVER confront him, NEVER antagonize him. Abuse victims do NOT seek out their abusers. Ever. (I am speaking from an abuse situation not involving a domestic partner, no physical, financial ties, no children obviously. Therefore there is no reason to ever have to see him outside of court proceedings. I appreciate this is far different from folks who have had partnerships/relationships/shared expenses/shared housing/children etc. I don't want to minimize the extreme additional hardships those folks have to face.)
I am appreciative of Dr. DeMarte making a point about the continued pursuit by Arias. Completely opposite of what any abused person would do. I hope the jury members get this as well, because it's imperative they realize the extremes Arias went to in order to stay involved, the extent she went to pry, to disrupt his other relationships, to always have his attention in some way, her relentless pursuit of a man who allegedly abused her!!