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KICKING AND SHINING
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Maybe she was afraid he was going to get away with it again.
I had something (not molestation, just vulgarity) happen to me when I was about 8, and I have never even mentioned it to anyone else until now. I wouldn't dream of upsetting my family members because I only think about it once in a while(every 15 years or so!). In any case, the creep (a retired WWII 'hero') died many years ago, and boy was I happy to hear my mom remark, "Oh, Colonel Blahblah died!"
But, if the old perv were alive today, and someone else had been victimized, I would tell everyone what happened to me.
The fact that she didn't tell anyone for 30 years is meaningless, and so is the fact that she was in a film that Polanski later made. I went back to Colonel Blahblah's house, too.
Sending you respect and care, Morag. I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope it's O.K. to say that.
Of course you went back to Colonel Creepies. You were a child when that happened. We can't even process exactly what it is. Throw in some of our upbringings of being respectful of adults it multiply's.
I've had counseling so I come out with it. Right out with it and I told. However it wasn't until I was 35. I looked at the freak that hurt me at the age of 8 numerous times over my childhood and adulthood. It wasn't until I had my nephew in my arms at a party and I saw the guy and freaked out. I still didn't tell, but I immediately got hit with the flashback and nobody was hurting my nephew. I just abruptly turned around and left. All the while even my own parents asking me "What's wrong? Are you sick? You can leave the baby". I was literally sick.
Then later when my own child was the age of around 8 I just got hit again and bad. It smacked me in the face. Panic attacks and out of charachter behavior. It wasn't until I got counseling did I feel I had the right to tell.
BTW, the old creep who assaulted me died as well. His DIL who is our family friend then said to me "Well it's OVER NOW he's dead". My reply was "Well I'm not".
Sorry for the long post. Obviously a peeve of mine. I wish you all good things. I think quite a few of us can relate why a person "waits".