Ronald proposes to Misty #2 UPDATE: Wedding planned for 03-12-09

[Glassgirl]

I am a Florida resident.
To date my ex owes me exactly $75,166.80 in Court Ordered Child Support and has never been arrested either.
And not for lack of me trying to make it happen.

 

[kageykaren]

This case really shows there should be mandatory marriage counseling before being allowed to marry!

 

[LaLaw2000]

Well, today is the wedding day. For better or worse, oh my!

I have never, ever, seen such bad behavior from a family with a missing child. This wedding is so inappropriate, IMO.

 

[MeoW333]

I wonder how many relatives and friends are going to be there? Get them all in one room and then send in LE for the big bust.

 

[tfrohning]

All right, now I know they are just making stuff up. Jr is what, 3? Yeah, I'm sure a 3-yr-old little boy talks about weddings and marriage all the time. Ha! What a crock. Sadly, these folks have lost all my support and I am glad I did not send them a dime. They don't seem to give a hoot about finding Haleigh; planning a wedding (albeit a quickie wedding) and marriage takes time and money. Time and money that should be spent searching for the missing child.

Sadly, I see this backfiring and people no longer willing to donate money or time to search. Sad.

I think JR just turn 4. but you are right. Just last night I had to sit down with
my 5 year old grand son and explain about wedding and other thing. and i still don't think he understood. I don't think if we know if they are spending any money on this wedding. Do we know if the wedding will be hold in a church or the court house?

 

[aprilshowers]

OK, so they are soooo gung ho about getting married because "it's what Haleigh wanted", right?

This is what bothers me...

Have they even thought about how it would make Haleigh feel to find out that they got married without her being there and/or during her abduction? If she comes home, more than likely she will be very distraut just from the abduction and whatever she had to endure during that time...and on top of all that, they'll tell her they got married without her? That's pretty cruel and selfish, if ya ask me.

Sweetie, while you were missing...we took time out from searching for you so we could get married. Here's some pictures of happy occasion...pics of the birthday party/engagment, here's a video of your step mom acting all giddy outside the courthouse AND here's pics of the wedding 3 days later. Oh yea, even though you couldn't be at the wedding, we told the press that they were more than welcome to be there & to wait for us outside the church.

Whatever.

I'm sorry...if I was in Haleigh's shoes & my Dad did anything like this to me, I would be crushed and heartbroken...especially if it was something that I really wanted and talked about all the time. And I don't care if they do have a ceremony just for Haleigh when she gets back, that ceremony is not the same because their marriage license will have March 12, 2009 on it...a day when she was still missing. She may not understand that now but she will when she gets a little older.

They are going to do what they want. I don't agree with it and I think its wrong on soooo many levels at this time but IMO, they could've at least tried to keep it quiet and private.

I know! Can you imagine ... you're older and decide to watch old news videos of when you were missing, and you see Misty there, smiling and waving and so happy. And you were MISSING! That would hit me in the gut, big time!

 

[KOOL LOOK]

I wonder how many relatives and friends are going to be there? Get them all in one room and then send in LE for the big bust.

Hahahaha good one. I try to be bent over backwards in understanding people on a merciful level, but the wedding is just too soon with so many un-answered questions. A couple of months down the road, possibly, not one month.

But emotions running real high and extreme for a month now, can cause this high you receive from it to blend in emotionally with the same emotions we feel from the euphoria of love, marriage, intimate relations, etc... So they may not be able to equate or separate one emotion from another to realize in-appropriateness of the other concerning timing.

Being a woman, I would be scared of a man marrying me when his emotions are so high and stressed. I would be wondering if it's me he was having those feelings for, I would want to be the subject of all attention, not distractions when I say "I do".

 

[Shaymus at The Rock]

OK, so they are soooo gung ho about getting married because "it's what Haleigh wanted", right?

This is what bothers me...

Have they even thought about how it would make Haleigh feel to find out that they got married without her being there and/or during her abduction? If she comes home, more than likely she will be very distraut just from the abduction and whatever she had to endure during that time...and on top of all that, they'll tell her they got married without her? That's pretty cruel and selfish, if ya ask me.

Sweetie, while you were missing...we took time out from searching for you so we could get married. Here's some pictures of happy occasion...pics of the birthday party/engagment, here's a video of your step mom acting all giddy outside the courthouse AND here's pics of the wedding 3 days later. Oh yea, even though you couldn't be at the wedding, we told the press that they were more than welcome to be there & to wait for us outside the church.

Whatever.

I'm sorry...if I was in Haleigh's shoes & my Dad did anything like this to me, I would be crushed and heartbroken...especially if it was something that I really wanted and talked about all the time. And I don't care if they do have a ceremony just for Haleigh when she gets back, that ceremony is not the same because their marriage license will have March 12, 2009 on it...a day when she was still missing. She may not understand that now but she will when she gets a little older.

They are going to do what they want. I don't agree with it and I think its wrong on soooo many levels at this time but IMO, they could've at least tried to keep it quiet and private.

Great post - especially the last two paragraphs. :clap::clap::clap:

 

[Shaymus at The Rock]

This case really shows there should be mandatory marriage counseling before being allowed to marry!

In a lot of churches there is - and I think that is one of the best services a church can provide. However, I doubt that the ever-so-handy pastor in this case would put any brakes on his own access to the media. IMO, RC and MC are not receiving any good advice from anyone. And, boy, do they ever need good advice. JMHO

 

[jaimie43]

Is the same pastor that has been seen with Ron doing the marrying?

 

[player]

As most of you know I am a voice of reason and a strong supporter of RC as I know the family RC/MC and children well. That being said I am very dissappointed in Ron and Misty doing this, marriage thing, at this time even tho she had told me that they were going to be married, however she wanted to wait for a big fulldress wedding. Well, undoubtedly this is BIG, BIGGER than anything I can dream of. Stupid yes. I agree, but let's try to get to the real purpose and that is the return of Haliegh. Thanks for your comments..

 

[jaimie43]

As most of you know I am a voice of reason and a strong supporter of RC as I know the family RC/MC and children well. That being said I am very dissappointed in Ron and Misty doing this, marriage thing, at this time even tho she had told me that they were going to be married, however she wanted to wait for a big fulldress wedding. Well, undoubtedly this is BIG, BIGGER than anything I can dream of. Stupid yes. I agree, but let's try to get to the real purpose and that is the return of Haliegh. Thanks for your comments..

Have you voiced your concerns to Ron? Do you know him well enough to talk to him about all this? Maybe he will listen to you....

 

[not_my_kids]

I've been sick for days now, and although I've been reading, I haven't been posting much, but this did it.

I've been thinking, either this is a shut up marriage, or this was really wishful thinking on Ron's part. Maybe something along the lines of him figuring that someone thought he was a bad father leaving Haleigh with Misty, but they would feel differently and bring her back if he married her. At this point, I don't know, but I can see there being some very irrational thoughts coming from Ron at this point. I don't blame him, so don't take it that way. If my daughter had been missing for a month, I would be less than rational myself.

I do worry about Ron Jr. in all this mess. I don't see this lasting and I worry about even more upheaval for the little guy. That said, I also don't believe that either one of those kids asked for this. Not because they wouldn't have wanted it, but just because 4 and 5 year olds don't usually think about whether the people around them are married or not.

 

[suki]

Marriage is no longer viewed in the eyes of the court as "redeeming" in terms of which parent is given primary custody of the child(ren). As I explained in an earlier post many years ago I went through a legal custody situation involving my two sons and I was a single mother. My ex married too to make it appear to the court that he could provide a better home. The court saw right through it as they will RC and MC's marriage. The only redeeming act that RC should have done in the interest of his children is end a relationship that should have never begun in the first place. The court would see that as a positive step, not marrying the sixteen year old babysitter!(now 17) If that is R & M's logic, they are in for a very rude awakening and I'd love to have a front row seat in the courtroom for that one. Of course I'd probably get escorted out by a courtroom officer as I wouldn't be able to stop ROTFLMAO...

MOO

Yup - I agree, the courts are more lenient these days. What I should have included in my sleepy time post this morning (ha ha) was that the Dept of Social Services might view it better if the "I do's" were said. It was just speculation on my part - you know how some are if you aren't married, they'll run ya in the ground. It doesn't matter to me - I've done it both ways and still came out losing. *lol* All I know is that they really didn't pick out the best time to do this...

 

[aprilshowers]

As most of you know I am a voice of reason and a strong supporter of RC as I know the family RC/MC and children well. That being said I am very dissappointed in Ron and Misty doing this, marriage thing, at this time even tho she had told me that they were going to be married, however she wanted to wait for a big fulldress wedding. Well, undoubtedly this is BIG, BIGGER than anything I can dream of. Stupid yes. I agree, but let's try to get to the real purpose and that is the return of Haliegh. Thanks for your comments..

Respectfully said ... I don't believe you can really 'know' them, in the intimate sense of the word, what went on behind closed doors.

We sometimes think we know somebody, but people can be deceptive.

Just sayin ...

 

[player]

Respectfully said ... I don't believe you can really 'know' them, in the intimate sense of the word, what went on behind closed doors.

We sometimes think we know somebody, but people can be deceptive.

Just sayin ...

You make a valid point, however a person with good people skills can usually determine a situation without opening any doors. Just to let you know (as if you don't already) They lived directly next door to me until they moved in back of me in Nov. Ron moved inextdoor in June and Misty was there in Sept. Mobile homes even nice older ones like these have thin walls and surprisingly many things can be heard thru those walls. You don't have to be a slueth to realize that. Ron and Misty, IMO, were not trying to decieve me. They had no reason. Ron was always upfront with me and he and his friends were trusted by me. I think I know them.

 

[cuppy199]

Respectfully said ... I don't believe you can really 'know' them, in the intimate sense of the word, what went on behind closed doors.

We sometimes think we know somebody, but people can be deceptive.

Just sayin ...

Your right and that goes for all the families involved not just RC and his side.

 

[Cara's Mom]

Is there something in the water in Florida? I thought the Anthony's were wacky and now this? 5year old girls wish for Barbies and princess dresses, not for Daddy to remarry. Sorry, JMHO! (BTW-3/12 was the date of my first marriage-to me, not a great date to get married-LOL!)

 

[jaimie43]

Has anybody heard what time the wedding will take place today?

 

[monet1369]

I haven't seen anything stating what time the wedding is. Info just said later today.