ok who the heck is this guy? just wondering because he has something in his about me section that says "i love B.M.D. Go there youll see what I mean.
http://www.myspace.com/niallriver1
I went to his myspace and was looking at the messages that have been left for him. The last one was left on 4.29 thanking him for his involvement with her daughter's memorial page.
I went over to the page (
http://www.myspace.com/kelli_laine_doa) and her story had me crying as hard as I did after reading what Sheri Colman's father wrote to Cheri and the kids.
The girl's name was Kelli (1982-2001). Before I saw that Brit was probably too young to know this girl I thought that maybe there's more to her depression than her parent's divorce. (I do think that there is A LOT more to her depression than what has been discussed in the media.) anyway, Kelli's story is very moving. She had struggled with addiction and was in many ways failed by "the system". She died on the way home, racing on a dangerous road as they were returning from a frat party where they had drank A LOT of alcohol.
A tragic similarity Kelli's story shares with Brit's is the callous manner people who didn't have to but should have been more responsible have dealt with this tragedy. In Kelli's case it is the frat boys who advertised the party at Kelli's high school and more than likely knew they were serving alcohol to kids under the age of 21. Kelli's mom asks them why they lurk on Kelli's memorial Myspace page but have never bothered to offer an apology to her family. Kelli's mom also calls out a member of LE who did not do a BAL test on the drunk teen driving the car Kelli's was racing with that did not go over the cliff.
Kelli also lived in North and South Carolina, I'm sure that that is nothing more than a coincedence.
So here is my point: I think that it is very likely that this young man did not love Brit as a girl friend, he loved her as a friend. He's 20 years old and in my opinion that is too young to have lost two of your friends. I also believe this guy's whole "gangsta" routine is just that. He mentions on his page that he played football and LaCrosse in High School. While LaCrosse is a contact sport I think it is a just a step or two up from golf... its just so not a "gangsta" sport.
He hasn't updated his little education square, so it is possible that he really doesn't do much upkeep on the page outside of social networking. So I don't know how much we can read into the relaxed mood icon. The picture that is over the icon is one of the only ones he looks "tuff" in. In the majority of the pictures he looks like your average, somewhat geekish 20 year old that is playing "gangsta" because he's still trying to figure out who he is.
I have a friend who is doing the whole "cougar" thing. Her boyfriend was exactly the same way except that he did play golf in high school and he is realllllllly hot. About a month into the relationship she went to one of the doctors featured on Dr. 90210, spent $35,000 on plastic surgery and took him the mall to get him pants that didn't droop and shirts that weren't oversized and/or featured hip hop and rap artists.
Finally, I truly believe that Brit's relationship with the Marine is platonic as well. It could be related to the absence of a steady father figure. It could be abandonment issues.
She may not have brought her medications because she was afraid of what her "friends" with her at MB would think. We don't know if drinking with that medication could be contributing factor in her disappearance, ditto if she consumed any drugs.
Regardless, it sounds like she was being very impulsive. It is a possibility that she was calling everyone to say goodbye, but in the call with her mom she made plans to buy sneakers for soccer. It wasn't a big plan, but it was a plan and people who are about to commit suicide don't make plans. But because she really did seem to be engaging in risky and impulsive behaviors it is very likely that mindset led her to commit suicide, running away, or getting in the car with a stranger. I'm really hoping that she did run away, but with each passing day that scenario becomes more and more improbable because there is no way she has the means to support herself.
I really hope they find this girl soon.