branwynbreeze
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Thank you for this eloquent and thoughtful post. I agree 100%. I tried to put this into words and gave up a few times. You did a great job in pointing out the exact problem I have with the text. It was not the text itself, but the context and subsequent actions/inactions.
Both post from Smooth and yourself jogged a memory. When I found my mother dead I managed to stumble outside, spoke briefly with gardener who just arrived then called 911. Then called my husband, no response, then called my aunt.
My aunt arrived and rushed into house only to be dragged out by LE. All the while I repeatedly called my husband's cell, paramedics texted and called him. LE called him and offered to sent a patrol car to get him. I had never been to his office and didn't know where it was. Finally called a friend who's office was near by and been to his office to go over there. My husband thought it odd, all my friend said was call your wife immediately. BTW, he was in a meeting and phone set on silent.
In all texts, missed call messages not one person said your MIL is dead, all just said call me (your wife). While I do not understand AS motivation for texting JS, I find it a crummy way to break unfortunate news to anyone, esp your own brother. In fact, I cannot think of a single instance when a family member left a message stating a death, they either hung up or left a call me message. Maybe times have just changed, IDK.