LONG, LONG, LONG, ALERT
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THE LONG ROAD TO WHAT IMO WERE THE UNDERPINNINGS OF WHAT HAPPENED IN MAY & JUNE
From the text records & more.
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March 2008.
First week: Travis had ended his relationship with Lisa just several weeks earlier, after her tires had been slashed, after they had begun discussing marriage more seriously and he panicked, after he had been encouraged by Sky to drop Lisa and act on his sudden belief that Mimi was “the One.”
The had spent some days of those final weeks in February in Las Vegas with Gus, not coincidentally, shortly after Lisa’s tires were slashed. She upped her attempts to ensnare Travis with sex upon her return from LV (via the Hoover Dam route, BTW).
IMO, based on the texts, she was determined to have them “go all the way” for the first time, and likely succeeded. By February’s end, it must have seemed to her that her goal was within grasp. Lisa was eliminated as competition, and she had dragged Travis down still further, which for her had always been about gaining control over him.
The couldn’t have been more wrong. According to Sky (and my own reading/interpretations), the hells of February finally convinced Travis that he couldn’t get right with the Church, find a good Mormon wife, or move on with his life as long as the remained in Mesa. The had to leave.
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On March 2, TA told she had to leave, AND/OR after a serious fight that resulted from Travis telling her he couldn’t/wouldn’t help her financially anymore, and that it would be best for both of them if she left, the began to realize--but may well not yet have accepted--that she would have to leave Mesa. The forged letter about Travis hitting her in the face is dated March 2, 2008, her testimony at trial is that TA raged on March 2 after she told him she had (unilaterally) decided to move back home.
Bottom line: by the first week in March, Travis believed that the was leaving, and would be gone by the end of the month.
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In between March 2’s confrontation and her departure scheduled for the end of March fell the Oklahoma City PPL convention. As early as January 2008, the had begun planning a road trip around the convention, telling Travis about the destinations they could check off the list of 1,000 Places to Visit.
It’s not a stretch to think that in early March she might have believed this trip could turn things around. An exciting road trip to remind Travis of how much he loved travelling with her, hotel stays along the way, thus opportunities for sex romps far from the judgmental scrutiny of TA’s friends, a return to OKC, where they had been a year before, when still ‘official,” he hadn’t betrayed her yet, and she had been so sure he would soon propose.
Travis had bought 2 convention tickets—one for him, one for her- well before March 2008; her attendance had also been locked in for months by his consent to her road trip plans. The was going.
March 2. Sunday. Later in the day, after the ‘You’re going/I’m leaving” confrontation: the plays games with his car; Travis throws a CES fireside and cookie party to which she is not invited; he tells a friend he is in a bad mood and needs people around to cheer him up; flirts with CL, tells his friend Diana he has some drama to tell her about; returns a text to who tells him to save her some cookies and to call her later; Sky demands a report from TA about the date he has planned with Mimi (making pottery);TA texts with Lisa about things of his she wants to return.
March 3. Monday. TA asks Michelle if she’s spoken to Lisa—tells her he’s having a “bad or sad day,” that he is having difficulty functioning, that maybe he is grasping at straws in asking how Lisa is and if she’s told Michelle anything “special,”; Deanna asks TA if he can repay her any of the money he’s borrowed from her-he replies that is bank account is overdrawn by $900, and he has only half a tank of gas on which to get to OKC and doesn’t know how he’ll be able to make it there; plays games about being late because she lost her wallet, “oops I found it!”; TA apologizes to Lisa if the email he sent her was too harsh; TA mentions that he was called into his bishop’s office (probably why he needed his car back from the ); around 7PM Travis asks Mimi if she wants some homemade guacamole, leaves to take it to her at 7:20.
At 7:33PM the texts him she ”has a thought” (no reply) and at 10:40PM that she would be there in 15 minutes.
March 4. Tuesday. TA texts with Taylor about Taylor looking for a GF, tells him that Lisa pulled “some cold-hearted stuff” (the day before), jokes with Taylor that “with the Mimi thing and all, Lisa is available;” tells Travis she is bored at work, no tables, TA replies with a one-word text- wow, and nothing further.
March 5. Wednesday. TA texts Bible talk with Mimi in the AM; an hour later the asks TA if he got the photo she sent of Travis with Chris Hughes and Dave Hall, he again replies with a one-word text-yes.
A couple of hours later TA texts about imagining white light filling your body then bursting out, “totally consuming you and everything around. “ J.A.”
She says -?- and TA tells her she said that to him once, that he’d just thought about it, thought it was funny, and sent it to her.
She replies , what’s funny is that things like that used to be my dominant thoughts,
and that she “used to remind herself of the Disney version of Pocahontas, come running down the side trails of the forest, come taste the sun-sweet berries of the earth.”
When TA doesn’t reply to her reply, 30 minutes later she texts “here’s something you sent to me once: moggies and grinders, hoggies and grinders, navy beans, navy beans, navy beans!”
Another half hour passes (TA isn’t busy texting anyone else) before he replies, telling her she is a nerd. “Or should I say Poconerdes.” replies 2 minutes later-“I don’t know, but if you want to poke me, why don’t you just say so?”
No reply. texts again--“I’m talking about on Facebook. Get your mind out of the gutter.” No reply.
TA is thinking about his rock climbing date with Mimi, and texts Taylor, Michelle, and Dan Freeman (yes, that ’s “friend” too) about going to the gym that night to help him practice for his date-he doesn’t know how to rock climb.
Taylor can’t go, tells TA that he made out with his date the night before. TA warns him.. be careful, or you'll lose each other's respect. Take it from me. I know.
TA has a PPL conference call in the evening. Shortly afterwards, at 10:08PM, he texts “you have ruined things indefinitely in that category. Your actions speak louder than words, and a minute later, “well what the hell do you expect me to do.”
(Note: TA very rarely cursed in texts). Texts briefly with CL, done with texting before 11PM.
March 6. Thursday. texts Travis on and off for almost 12 hours- he doesn’t send her a text until after 8PM. (She says her eye is still bloodshot from your “potent stuff, T-Dogg ”
then sends an “accidental text” about paying her roommate for overdue utilities, then texts TA: “Err. Duh, J—i. That was about (a bill) I’m able to pay because of you. So disregard that!!” (He does-and her)..
Hours later, at 5:20, she texts him where she is-nearby, a few blocks away.
At 8:21PM she texts: darn, forgot to taste the ice-cream.
8:21. TA. “Oh well its not going anywhere.
8:35. . “Call me when u get a sec.”
8:47. Mimi texts TA: When should we meet?
8:48. Travis to Mimi” Whenever’s clever. I’m Just chillin. When is good for you?”
10:24PM TA to Mimi: “Thanks for hangin. Don’t OD on sugar. Sleep well. “
Ten minutes later TA is texting Michelle, afterwards, with CL about going on a double date the next night, and joking about getting naked (11:45-1:15AM) . In between texts with CL, gets into a tiff with the BF of a woman TA had texted.
LEAVES FOR YREKA IN THE AM OF MARCH 7 (IIRC….I’ve posted about this trip of hers before, exact date is here somewhere.
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March 7. Friday. Travis is up unusually early—to drop off at the airport, IIRC. At 8AM he’s texting with Michelle about Mimi, that he hadn’t kissed her on the date, but that he had a 5th dream she’d kissed him, that he wanted to kiss her real bad, “but didn’t know what to do.”
Then he tells Michelle he wants to invite Mimi on his road trip to the OKC conference and asks Michelle if she wants to go as part of a group.
MIMI. TRAVIS WANT MIMI TO GO WITH HIM ON THE ROADTRIP. TRAVIS IS TRYING TO ARRANGE TRAVELLING TO OKC WITH A GROUP, RATHER THAN ALONE WITH THE . TA’S SCHEDULED DEPARTURE FOR THE CONFERENCE IS DAYS AWAY, ON MARCH 10/11.
3/7. 11:17AM. the texts TA from Yreka: “and you would have thought the whole time I was high maintenance because I packed 2 bags when really I was just being smart.”
3/7. 2:57PM. : “Call me T-Dogg! (even though my name is Jodi!)”
No reply.
TA is texting with CL about the double date, and with Michelle.
7:15PM. : Mt Shasta is pink from the sunset!
No reply.
7:19PM. : “I’m bored, what are you up to tonight?”
11:48PM. : “forgot to tell u I made it here safely.”
12:24AM (March 8) CL texts Travis to tell him thanks, that she had a lot of fun.
March 8. Saturday.
12:06PM. texts TA from Yreka – wouldn’t you know it? (A restaurant in Mesa she had applied to awhile back) “wants to call me in!” (Note-she’s telling Travis she likely has work again in Mesa….and so can stay?)
12:42PM. Travis replies: “The irony.”
12:45. : “Yeah, that darn delay in the LOA (Law of Attraction). “
Then, “ So I’m walking through Walmart and I realize my fly is down and I’m wearing green panties today, haha! “
1:09PM. TA: well, it’s almost St. Patrick’s Day.
TA texts with Katie Barnes, CL, asks a friend out to dinner, says he’s bored out of his mind. He ends up going out by himself to Barnes & Noble, buys
A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle, returns and text-banters with CL about books.
March 9. Sunday.
12:51AM. TA texts “it wouldn’t be like home without it. It’s like Napoleons’ butt.”
Only one other text that day before 6:32PM (church day).
texts him ---she’s on time, see you soon!
Travis picks her up at the airport, but he must have driven her straight to her rented room, because a couple of hours later he’s broadcasting silly jokes, then texting with PPL’ers about the OKC. He tries out a line he wants to text Mimi, because he’s going out of town and “doesn’t want her to forget him.” He tells Clancy he’s due to arrive at convention on Wednesday (March 12).
March 10. Monday.
12:50AM. tells Travis she can’t sleep, that’s she’s restless, “a little worried, excited! Though exhausted.”
1:03.AM. TA: Worried about what? Restless? Can I help?
1:07.AM. : “Worried about money. I get paid in 2 days. As far as restless, I just need to get in bed and settle down. You are wonderful.”
Travis tells her sleep is a priority, she won’t get much of it at convention, she says it is just so hard! such a time crunch! TA reassures her everything will get done, she ends with:
1:11AM. “ You’re right. And plus, I’ll probably dream of you!! "
TA replies—"Yu nerd. Sleep well.”
1:13AM. : “Thx, T-dizzle.”
Travis is awake and texting, including to Mimi, by 10:33AM.
3/10. 10:39AM. sends him a complete & stupid non sequitur about dictionary definitions. No reply. Travis texts with Deanna, his buddy Aaron, and with PPL’ers.
At 3:56PM, texts from work that she had been stiffed by “spics,” calls them ingrates for not tipping, especially since she'd spoken to them in Spanish (skipping TA's replies
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(Note: TA definitely paid her entire way on the OKC trip, though for the first time, perhaps, he made it clear to her beforehand that he needed her to repay him this time. Funny, then, how often she began making it a point to tell him she wasn't earning any money).
4:59 PM. tells TA she won’t have any problem sleeping that night, she’s exhausted, TA tells her to get to bed as soon as she can. She replies a minute later that she’s at Walmart, asks him if he needs anything-- he asks her to pick up batteries and an ice chest, he has bought/has everything else.
5:35PM. Mimi texts Travis she has just seen him (out on his bike)
5:39PM. tells TA to call her.
Travis replies to Mimi.
At 10:12PM. texts TA she’s sorry, she’s still running around like crazy, but “I’m almost ready!” (Note: think about that one).
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