My husband/significant other and I have been together for twenty years. So we give each other a ton of space to be honest, like LOTS of space to do our own things. However, example, early in the week he mentioned he was going to the Beer Garden at a fair this coming Friday night. (I heard him, but no need to comment). Friday night comes I say, call if you want a ride, he was walking there, but I worry about him walking home very late on dark roads. Then I looked at what he was wearing, I said that is not smart, jeans and black shirt, NOPE....a car will not see you. So he goes to his room and changes his shirt. Then my parting words, don't be afraid to call for a ride, and...if you decide to spend the night at a friends, CALL me, or I will be driving looking for you in a ditch by two a.m. And off he went. I knew what friend he was going with, but he is very much a social butterfly, so he can meet other friends and end up on a totally different friends couch. If questioned, I would have NO clue...yes what he was wearing, yes where he told me he was going, but who he ended up with...pfft no idea. Its a total trust thing with us and I have never had a reason not to. But in a case of I am going to Johns house in the morning, I expect him to be at John's house. Does this make sense. He should have known where she was going, and essentially when she was due back. Especially when two precioius babies are involved. I don't care how much freedome you allow each other, you still communicate and have good info. Just my opinion.