I was so disturbed by that post, I couldn't sleep, and when I did fall asleep, I had a bad dream. The insensitivity got to me and I kept picturing someone saying that to my mother. Yes, I personalized it. It bothered me greatly that people are insensitive to the grieving process which is an individual and personal right. I don't feel that anyone deserves criticism for not grieving according to someone else's schedule.
I joined WS because it is the one and only place I can speak of my brother's murder without fear of recrimination or negativity or someone telling me it has been 32 years, get over it already. It was an insult and slap in the face to anyone who has lost a loved one, human or otherwise. I hope the poster learned something from my response. If not, the more the pity. IMO.