I really don't know what to think could have happened to this lovely, vibrant, adventurous, determined and strong young woman - so many possibilities, all explored with clarity and detail in this thread. There are a lot of contrasting thoughts yet all seem as though they could make sense. I think there is a heartfelt and deep human need for resolution when someone just disappears like this, along with hopes and empathy for people that love and know the person. Some thoughts/possibilities that keep coming back to me are:
- Setting off late in the day - was she maybe setting off with some trepidation, procrastinating about going? I know that I do this when there are things that I have mixed feelings about wanting to do. Did she feel a sense almost of obligation, of sticking to a plan, of making herself go through with something that she actually found quite difficult?
- The picture that she posted looking down over Luchon - the walking sticks are entwined in front of the view, but maybe reading too much into this! The wording was something like "DC I can almost see you" - so many ways to read between the lines here - for example "you don't need to worry about me " or "I'm really not far away" or even a slight taunt - "I'm over here and you're over there and I'm not coming back yet!"
- There is another person who saw Esther in the days before she disappeared - the grandson of the French man who gave her a lift. Just mentioning this as he never gets included in the list of people who saw her - I haven't heard any mention of him and don't know whether he was an adult or a child. And regarding this lift - was she signalling for a lift, or did he stop because she looked in need of a lift? I think that the Covid situation is an extra level in the decision making process for many and what was its significance here, if any?
All just questions, no answers, just my thoughts.
PS happy new year to all
Insightful post...thank you. You are touching on one aspect of this case that intrigues me...and that’s how to interpret the few clues we have ...when we do not know the actual dynamics of the relationship between Dan and Esther.
I’m not questioning their love for each other...but with their lives suddenly in the glare of the media, how much are they holding back...out of love, loyalty, desire for privacy? Dan says their last conversation was one of missing each other and Esther looking forward to coming home.
But Esther has been supposed to come home several times before and instead changed her mind. I’m believing that this was absolutely a loving devoted relationship. But Covid and quarantine had admittedly created issues. There was much to discuss about their mutual differences in how to go forward. Esther may have believed that this was her last bit of freedom in the mountains for a very long time.
Maybe, as you point out...there was something of a ‘You can’t catch me” in the comment about almost seeing Dan. Maybe the last conversation was about missing each other, yes, but with pressure from Dan to wind this trek of hers up. Maybe she sent a photo instead of calling the next day...instead of having to debate the issue again. Maybe he took her 3 plus days of no communication like a loving parent with a stubborn, determined-to-have-her-way offspring.
Now is he going to put this all out into the public domain? “I didn’t raise the alarm because this is what she’d do when she didn't want to argue or do what I was asking her to do. A lack of communication is Esther avoiding confrontation.”
No, I don’t think so.
This is why we have contradictory statements. ‘ She ALWAYS kept us informed. She called all the time, several times a day.” But neither her Mother or Dan was concerned until 3 1/2 days past.
I’m thinking also about all the ways this pandemic was undercutting this nomadic life she loved. Lockdowns. Cooped up in a small camper. Seems like they’d already left the dogs in UK. Is their rental property in London or one of the hardest hit areas? Is that income stream still functioning? They’d already lived six years on their savings.
There’s a mention in one interview of Dan’s health issues being a reason he’d like to settle down. Does he now need to be closer to medical providers?
Esther was returning to very small quarters, quarantine, masks...with no end in sight...so very different from the freedom, far away from everything the world was facing...that she was feeling on her trek.