Do you believe that the only abuse is physical abuse?
Thank you for that! And I guess the earlier comment proves my point exactly.
Society has no idea what an abusive relationship looks like.
Physical abuse is many things, not just slapping and punching someone.
Lundy Bancroft, a national abuse expert, says that any abuse is not about anger management issues, it is about attitude. He lists ten mindsets that create an abusvie environment, whether it is emotional, physical, financial, etc.
1. The satisfaction of power and control
2. Getting his way, especially when it matters most to him.
3. Someone to take his problems out on.
4.Free labor from her, leisure and freedom from him.
5. Being the center of attention, with priority given to his needs.
6.Financial control.
7. Ensuring that his career, education , or other goals are prioritized.
8. Public status of being husband/good father, without anyone knowing what happens at home.
etc......
And I must respectfully say to those who think BC was not abusive, what is your personal experience? Before you judge, don't you feel it is fair and prudent to let people who have lived these scenarios compare their experiences with what they are hearing?