kiki the parrot
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If she wanted to "slam" CS she could have pulled out more "concrete" (if you know what I mean) ammunition to be "hurtful".
I am sure if TN wanted to do be "cruel" to CS, there are more, concrete, factual ways she could go about doing that it she so desired.![]()
Whatever I think of the legitimacy of the implication, I don't believe that was what was in TN's mind at the time (to be cruel) because IMO there were probably more direct ways to do that![]()
Re" BBM. Which IMO in this instance is probably the less cruel way to go about it, if indeed that was her intent, which I still don't think it truly was or she would have done much more damage to CS than saying Misty was "motherly".
(snip, bbm) As has been well demonstrated.
I disagree, that isn't normally how passive-aggressives behave. Having dealt with passive-aggressives AND being the type myself that would much rather "put it all out on the table," putting it "all out on the table" for PA's is like asking them to relinquish their (perceived) power.
It's a game to them, one that they find great enjoyment in because, in a sense, it messes with people's minds. When confronted by somebody about a comment that is an obvious implication toward them, this provides the PA an added opportunity to cowardly strike by telling the person that they took their comment(s) all wrong, adding something like, "you must be paranoid" and then they take on the act of the "wounded-one", asking how you could even think for a moment that they would ever be so cruel as to say something like that... The game is won (this round) when the PA has the person (their target) feeling like a and begging them for forgiveness for ever thinking such a thing in the first place... very sick IMO.
So true nms and very familiar, turning the dagger smiling all the while, in order to dodge direct responsibility... then playing the injured party. I've seen alot of this and find it interesting that blameshifting, excuse making, and victimhood are all associated w PA. W regard to TN it's clear the blameshifting toward CS existed long before WS, or Haleigh's disappearance. Maybe instead of finding fault w their mother (from whom the children were taken and one of whom is now missing for which CS bears no responsibility), it would've been more useful to instead have questioned her own son--and have examined more closely the environment from which her granddaughter disappeared and in which he still keeps Junior. JMO