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Domestically Challenged
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I know I've heard this before but just again today on JVM's show I heard a psychologist describe TH has "needy". So if that's the case, I can very well understand her contacting people in this way.
Agreed though, I doubt a lot of women would do this.
I did. I don't feel like I'm a needy person, but I just wanted to make sure the lines of communication were open all the time regarding the boys. (Hubs had been basically raising them on his own since they were 3 & 4 yo.) I had the honor of raising my two (step) sons from elem school age and their bio-mom lived several states away. The communication situation, for us, was just more comfortable for hubs (except for the child support part; not my business really since it was decided long before I came into the picture).
I didn't update her daily, maybe once or twice a month, as well as phone calls about the same depending on what was going on. We were comfortable talking to each other because I made sure she felt that she could call me anytime and she was grateful for the way I was raising her boys. (I won't go into why; however, she willingly gave up custody so she could live her life as a single person.)
We always showed a united front in all matters concerning the boys' discipline, education, etc. If there were ever any disagreements or misunderstandings, they were always worked out privately. Most times she deferred to us for obvious reasons. The boys soon learned she was the "Disney" mom, which we felt was actually very sad.
Now that their in their late 20's, we rarely talk to her; but then again, there's really no need to communicate on a regular basis. If I had met her under different circumstances (i.e., neighbor, co-worker), I seriously doubt we would have been friends -- different morals and all.