Mom24
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My best friend's kid was seduced at age 14 by a 32 year old woman. It destroyed him. He's a heroin addict now. He thought it was cool and the attitude of his father and other males reinforced that (it happened at dad's house). But the fact is that children that age cannot handle sexual contact with an adult. There is an imbalance of power, and elements of manipulation, control and exposure to thing they aren't ready for, that really screws them up.
Women who do this are predators too. And they deserve to be imprisoned.
Unfortunately the old boys network doesn't protect their young, and I've always felt misery loves company. It's stronger to call it "hot" than to admit they were a victim. And as long as there is this mistaken belief than an erection implies consent, this trend will continue. A relationship means those involved are partners, and that can't happen when someone uses their age, position or finances or any other situation to control their partner. Used to be that husbands couldn't rape their wives, marriage was implied consent. Now we know better. I'm always hopeful that female predators will be seen as the real predators they are. In the case of Letourneau, the boy should have received counseling. Because of his age and the situation it's not uncommon for this to happen. It's why girls who are abused as children often become promiscuous, they continually relive the situation and it becomes normalized in their behavior. So frustrating when people bring up cases like that to indicate that it can be love. It's not love and it's sad.