BritsKate
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I was disbelieved and well remember the frustration and sense of helplessness...but you're right, its not just this one case. I think it goes way beyond victim credibility as to why this defense is potentially damaging though.I have heard this opinion expressed again and again, not just here, and not just by you, Novice Seeker, that the credibility of "real" victims everywhere is at stake and is being damaged by this case. As if just one--one!--dubious and obviously ill defendant, and the people who are defending her, could somehow ruin it for other victims. I say this is nonsense!
If the credibility of victims is so fragile, so easily dismissed, can you place the blame for that squarely on Jodi's shoulders? I mean, let's just think about that. Does she really have that kind of power? Does Alyce? Or, is it that we have a society that is looking for anything, anything at all to discredit victims of DV or intimate partner violence, and, to that end, Jodi Arias is a dream come true?
When it comes to the credibility of victims, there's a much larger and deeply-seated problem here that has a long, long history going back to before Jodi was even BORN. Why superimpose her infamous face over this problem? That is so cowardly and dishonest!
This one case is highly sensational and publicized and it is this one case that propagates the myth men can't be victims of abuse. It is this defense that likely has engineered a defense strategy - with little evidence or even similarities to many other victims and survivors who have spoken out on this forum.
And it's this one case that's grabbing the headlines so if the news anchor is saying Jodi is what an abuse victim looks like and this is indeed an abusive relationship - when in reality that probably isn't the case - then you've got how many people with that mental image who go on in their daily lives perpetuating those myths, albeit unknowingly? Could it be the difference in whether a judge grants a restraining order? Might it mean the difference between an arrest and a warning? Who the custody evaluator gives more weight to? To me these are real life considerations that this defense, this one case, could have a knock on effect upon.
Every time someone makes a false claim of abuse I truly believe it makes that road more difficult for the next person to traverse - for vast and varied reasons apart from credibility alone. And I've seen it in action way too many times to discount it.
MOO