EquallyDivided
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Nope, I completely agree with you and have said almost exactly the same thing in earlier threads. I think you are spot-on and thank you for sharing.The testimony of RH's friends reminded me of my ex-BIL, who is a narcissist/sociopath. He is a successful engineer for a large corporation, and was known as a larger-than-life man with many friends, a devout church-goer and a family man who dearly loved his wife and children. What no one realized at the time was that the only person he is really capable of loving is himself and when he decided he wanted to be free to pursue his sexual fantasies, he walked away from the family he "loved" and barely has a relationship with his children. He "loved" them as long as they met his needs. When the novelty wore off, he moved on.
I think this is what Ross wanted to do, but there was one thing holding him back - LeAnna. She didn't want Cooper to grow up in a broken home as she had, and she was going to do everything she could to fight for her marriage. She had already done that when she caught Ross viewing *advertiser censored*, and she most certainly would do it if Ross told her that he wanted a divorce. LeAnna would have insisted that she and Ross discuss this with their church groups and ask for their guidance and prayers, as well as seek marital counseling, and I think Ross didn't want to once again be forced to bare his soul and endure the feelings of humiliation and judgment. As a narcissist, he would not let her shame him again. Once Cooper was deceased, he would be able to approach the subject of divorce again under the guise of a bereaved parent who'd drifted apart from his spouse and, if he were really lucky, she would be so angry at him that she would initiate the divorce and he could be the victim.
All of the above is JMO. I am not a psychologist and I am in no way trying to diagnose Ross. I am also aware that no mental-health professional has testified to his mental state. I realize that he triggers a personal bias in me and, for that reason, I would probably not make a very objective juror in this case.
This is a rough crowd (which is why I usually just lurk), and won't be surprised if I'm chastised for having this opinion, but for me it explains why a "loving" father would choose fillicide over divorce. Although I believe there are legitimate instances of FBS, I don't think this is one.
JMO
I believe we all have great understanding of different things. Some of us are really good at interpreting the law, some of us are good as being very neutral and non-commital, some of us are good at reading human behavoirs, and some of us are good at interpreting intent and cayse/effect, some of us are good at "themes". Some of this is science, and some of it is art.
I have an entire BOOK based on "interrogation themes". You basically pick which crime was committed, and offer different excuses for a suspect to grab onto while you interrogate. This gives the suspect an "out". A way to admit the crime while mitigating the reason. This way, a suspect will admit to the crime with reasoning that makes them seem like a decent person.
I just deleted a huge dissertation, I don't want to give away secrets BUT, I will say I'm passionate about Behavioral Science. It helps that's what I DO for a living.
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