ThinkHard
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I really feel bad that her children have not been told yet. I know the family thinks they are doing what is best for them, by protecting them, and waiting until they have their father there for comfort.
But as someone who professionally works with children and is trained in the field of psychology, the news is going to hit them especially hard, not only for losing their mother, but for being lied to by those around them, those they trust. They are bound to feel angry for being kept in the dark and this will only add to the pain they feel for losing their mother. In many ways they will feel betrayed, and it could create lifelong trust issues, always feeling like those they should trust could be hiding or withholding information from them.
My heart breaks for them. Again I am not trying to blame the family. I'm sure it is not their intention. But by delaying informing the boys this is the reality of what doing so may cause them.
But as someone who professionally works with children and is trained in the field of psychology, the news is going to hit them especially hard, not only for losing their mother, but for being lied to by those around them, those they trust. They are bound to feel angry for being kept in the dark and this will only add to the pain they feel for losing their mother. In many ways they will feel betrayed, and it could create lifelong trust issues, always feeling like those they should trust could be hiding or withholding information from them.
My heart breaks for them. Again I am not trying to blame the family. I'm sure it is not their intention. But by delaying informing the boys this is the reality of what doing so may cause them.