I was just looking through her IG account and 4 weeks ago she posts that she will be soon travelling to Europe and that her destinations are Turkey, Germany, and Amsterdam. So the trips were planned for and arranged while she was still in the US and why would she mention Germany if it was just a plane stopover?
Her stopover was probably long enough to leave the airport for a bit. Either that or it was simply the fact that she'd never been out of the country and so a layover felt like a country she could say she was "visiting".
Yes, and no female offered to let her "couch-surf" --- only men? No female university students or tourists to go to cafes with? Since she belonged to some religious group, couldn't the group help arrange for her to meet with some other women over there to go sight-seeing with? That would have been a much safer situation for her, and not at all difficult; but maybe she was more interested in the men than the photos, history and architecture.
Wow, that's a pretty sanctimonious and snarky thing to say about a woman we presume to be a victim. I don't even know why you'd assume that. The IG guy actually sounds smart and interesting and friendly from his posts - other posters in IG seem to chat with him quite a bit about trips to Amsterdam. And her husband KNEW she was chatting to him and staying with him. To me this sounds like a friendly person offering their couch and some tour guiding in a fun city. And she arrived back from this trip SAFELY.
Why on earth do people want to shove this woman into some 1950's housewife role in which she cowers behind her husband while traveling and piously allows her religious leaders to find friends for her on vacation? Who even does that in 2013? Where was she supposed to find these "female university students and tourists" to glom on to on a 3 day AMsterdam trip?
And how were these female students and female tourists supposed to "trust" some strange woman they had never met enough to travel and room with, if such trust of the unknown seems so naive?
Isn't it more sensible if we operate here based on the personality and attitude that she actually seems to HAVE, rather than comparing her actions to some meek and scared fantasy personality people would apparently like her to have?
Another thing is that she is from a religious background and I'm surprised that she was in the company of male friends while traveling alone. Usually people from church go out of their way to avoid even the remote idea of wrongdoing. I think it really hit her hubby when he arrived to Turkey b/c I read that he was offended with all the comments that she was surrounded by men. It's hard to ignore these facts but because she is the victim of some type of foul play it becomes uncomfortable to bring up.
I've never heard that 'people from church' go out of their way to avoid the remote idea of wrongdoing. People are people. People who attend church are pretty much like non-church people. In most religions they are as likely to drink, smoke, have affairs and adventures and the entire range of the human experience, flaws and all.
In any case, she seems to be a bright, engaged, creative, fun person who didn't seem overly preachy or subdued by her religion.
And if I were her husband, I would also be offended that people were questioning the morals of my wife for speaking to men when she traveled. Her husband knew she was doing this. She is, we're assuming, a victim - are you suggesting that she was somehow asking for it?