One last post...
If you have a relative that's 'odd' and people have whispered that he's touched kids before, or you have a friend that's had a colorful past but has maybe had a conviction for sexual assault or you have a neighbor that just LOVES HANGING AROUND YOUR KIDS, or keeps telling you, "Oh you go on to work I'll watch the kids, no really go on to work".
YOU OWE IT TO YOUR KIDS to get these people out of your life.
I don't care if you want to go out Saturday night and needed that babysitter who is your friend's nephew. I don't care how badly you needed your NEXT FIX OR DRINK so you allowed your home to be compromised by someone with a questionable past to watch your children while you ran out for a night. I DON'T CARE how many bills you owe or what excuse you have to say that you were low on money and this 'guy' offered to babysit for nothing. I do not care.
You owe it to your children to keep these people away from them.
The pamphlets on sexual abuse prevention make it seem all to easy to spot these people but they are sliders. They SLIDE into your life one foot at a time.
They start by giving you a ride somewhere or fixing your car or your sink and gaining your trust.
Then they start to show you how GOOD they are around small children so you think that is so wonderful and how they can be trusted.
Then, maybe it's new school shoes or a backpack or a birthday present that was financially out of your reach and it shows up with a big bow.
Now the child AND you think you have a great guy on your hands.
You owe it to your children to keep these people away.
Ok, good night.