If you study different family dynamics, one of them that is incredibly harmful is the shame based family. That is the one where children learn that secrets must be kept in order to protect the family.
This occurs in alcoholic and sex abuse families among others.
People say that some things are genetic. I, and many others, say that children learn these inappropriate dynamics and carry them on. The individual his/herself may not be an alcoholic, for instance, but s/he marries an alcoholic .
Very interesting. Shame is a very destructive thing. Please, never shame your children.