Some random thoughts here from a recently divorced mom , dating and dealing with an ex.
I can easily believe that crystal would not be forthcoming with ex about the fact that she and kids have decided to stay with new bf for weekend, instead of heading to Dallas. I don't see it as much of a deception but as a "none of his business anymore" reasoning.
I'm not going to judge her for how she was wading through this new territory. My ex definitely doesn't not know every detail about where my kids and I go when I have them. It's just not always his business.
However, a hurricane was coming so I'm sure she was going to tell him at some point where they would be. They are still his children and he has a right to know that. She just hasn't figured out how or when to tell him at that point maybe? Maybe waiting to do it in person or after she picked the kids up?
As for how long she had been dating this new guy, it's really common, although not a fun situation, for two people in a divorce to stay together in the house until all the paperwork and new housing stuff for the one moving out to get settled. So, even though they were still in the same house sometimes, they could have been NOT together as a couple for a very long time prior. I could not leave my house for 10 months after we decided to divorce due to property division and things like that. My attorney advised me NOT to go anywhere until everything was signed and done. So it really doesn't seem too strange to me that she was still there while townhouse was being redone. I am not alarmed that she had started dating again.
Who knows how long their marriage had been over at that point.
Also, if I read the text exchange between she and ex correctly,
I am guessing that she arrived very shortly after his text asking if she was close. No need to text when you're about there.
Maybe that's when she told him she and kids were going to bf's. And maybe she also told him about the cruise then too. And maybe that's when it got ugly.
My gut tells me that something happened when she arrived to get kids.
That weird other text a little later was a cover to make it seem like she didn't show. (Dishwasher arrived)
Of course, total speculation and all my own opinion.
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