Right? Thanks for saying it. Adding: not a judgement, just a choice. :twocents:
We all bring our own personal histories and painful experiences to these Boards. When my daughter was in Law School, she had a long term relationship. The young man lost his job and could not find another one. She, on the other hand, was winning awards and doing well. He became subject to fits of anger and unfounded jealousy. He was always accusingher of cheating with any individual who even called for class notes. He demanded the password to her phone and emails. One night, in a fury, he ripped up some of her textbooks. That was the end...at least for her. There was NO other person.
He would not let go. He filled her phone with texts and voicemail...being unemployed he had the time...and this prevented her from getting messages in regard to school. These messages alternated between hate filled obscenity-filled rages...and tearful pleas to take him back. We believed he wanted to see her fail and then she would.."come back."
I was scared to death for her. We did get the passwords changed on the phone..We did call the police a few times..but things were not getting better.
Imagine my absolute shock to find out that my daughter had kept her FB at public all,this time and he was still a "friend!!!" She felt she wanted to show him she was still having fun and doing well...and her posts certainly did that. But when you are dealing with someone who is getting more and more agitated, maybe unstable...what in Heaven's name are you thinking???
If there is a restraining order in this case or any similar history to my daughters situation ...common sense says that FB should be set to private!!!!!
In our case, once he couldn't see her FB posts...well,out of sight, out of mind. Our precious daughters need to understand this for their own safety.