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The estranged husband comes from a very loving and God fearing family where there was no abuse at all.
is not a fact at all. It's speculative. Unless you live with them, you have NO idea what goes on behind closed doors. Then I'll address the second and most insulting and offensive part of your statement What the hell would make you say such a thing?! This is the most WRONG and disturbing load of completely fictional crap I've ever heard someone state about abuse. As someone who has been abused, I find it offensive and downright harmful to perpetuate such a blatantly wrong piece of information. I'm pretty sure anyone else reading it who has been abused will feel the same way.[/QUOTE]
You are right. I did not live with them so I would not know what went on behind closed doors. But, I have known the family for over 20 years and based on that knowledge of the estranged husbands parents, grandparents and siblings and he himself,
I did not witness any signs of abuse from any of them. I also know that if this were myself or my family in this situation, I would want people who knew me and my family to not doubt me in my time of need. If you knew their story, history and character you wouldn't doubt them either.
Having said that, I apologize if you were offended by the second half of my statement. It was not my intention to offend anyone. However, I did not state that children who have been abused will go on to abuse others. I was merely pointing out that if you trace back to an abusers childhood, you will normally find out that they themselves were abused. Different context.[/QUOTE]"
I was abused for over 25 years and unless you have been a victim of domestic abuse you will NEVER know what it is like! Abusers are great at hiding their little secret and most victims won't tell anyone so indeed you WON'T witness any signs of abuse. Do you actually think an abuser is going to beat the hell out of his wife right in front of you? No...they wait until you're behind closed doors, in the bedroom, in the car alone...that's when it happens and you won't witness it. I don't know what went on behind closed doors in Melissa's house because I wasn't there. But nobody in this world has the right to say there was no abuse unless they were there! People thought my ex-husband was a good Christian, God-fearing man too! But they weren't there to witness the pistol he pulled on me, the bruises and black eyes, the busted nose, the busted lip. They have NO idea how it feels to be afraid to sleep at night, or be afraid to be 5 minutes late pulling in the driveway from work because traffic was heavy, or how it feels to have the plate full of supper you just placed on the table in front of him to go sailing past your head and down the hallway just because the biscuits were cold. If you have NEVER endured domestic violence in your life, then you need to be on your knees thanking God every day that you haven't and praying for those who ENDURE it every day!
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