TX - Nichol Olsen, 37, & 2 daughters, found shot dead inside mansion, Bexar County, 10 Jan 2019 #3

[nightowl1975]

It seems the relatives are on the lookout for anything that dissatisfies them, IMHO.

Yes, I agree.

I am reminded of my divorce. It was a terrible time. At one point, I commented to a friend that my soon-to-be-ex seemed to think I was responsible for all that was wrong with the world. World hunger, the national debt, all of it. It truly didn’t matter what the situation was, it was somehow my fault in his eyes.

To be fair, I felt pretty much the same about him. The toilet overflowed? I wouldn’t be crying over an overflowing toilet if my husband hadn’t lost his mind and abandoned his family. Late taking the kids to school? Clearly his fault because I couldn’t sleep at night worried about our future. And on and on it went.

In hindsight, I feel a bit silly for how utterly convinced I was that IT WAS ALL HIS FAULT. But it’s how I felt in the moment. Apparently this is a normal human response to trauma. If I experienced it with divorce, I can only imagine what I would feel if one of my children were murdered.

 

[inmyhumbleopinion]

The father is being upset over stuff and not being allowed inside a house he doesn't own. In doing so, he's pushing himself to the head of the person of interest list. The Sheriff made it clear CW isn't alone on that list.

JMO

And there are other things he is upset over as well, IMO:

“For now, Carlos Montez is left only with memories of his 16-year-old daughter and unanswered questions about her death.

He said he opened one box of clothes, found her cheerleading uniform and could look no further.

‘That broke my heart the moment I opened that box — because I knew I would never get to see her wear that again,’ Montez said, his voice cracking with grief.”
‘Pretty callous’ return of victims’ belongings stokes tensions between families after Anaqua Springs killings

I hope I will never have to experience anything remotely close to what he has been through the last three weeks.

Also, when you say “In doing so, he's pushing himself to the head of the person of interest list,” what do you mean? I’m genuinely curious.

 

[iluvmua]

I find it odd that other relatives of NO's had been inside CW's house before.

Maybe she wanted her family/friends to meet him.

Jmo

 

[BaffleMe]

And there are other things he is upset over as well, IMO:

“For now, Carlos Montez is left only with memories of his 16-year-old daughter and unanswered questions about her death.

He said he opened one box of clothes, found her cheerleading uniform and could look no further.

‘That broke my heart the moment I opened that box — because I knew I would never get to see her wear that again,’ Montez said, his voice cracking with grief.”
‘Pretty callous’ return of victims’ belongings stokes tensions between families after Anaqua Springs killings

I hope I will never have to experience anything remotely close to what he has been through the last three weeks.

Also, when you say “In doing so, he's pushing himself to the head of the person of interest list,” what do you mean? I’m genuinely curious.

You're not asking me, but he is steering a lot of attention toward himself. IMO

 

[BaffleMe]

I find it odd that other relatives of NO's had been inside CW's house before.

Maybe she wanted her family/friends to meet him.

Jmo

You mean VS an X?

 

[BaffleMe]

An earlier post has a quote from the attorney stating she realized Alexa’s name was spelled wrong, she tried to correct it by crossing out the extra letter, and they weren’t going to go get new boxes just because the name was spelled wrong.

I wonder if in hindsight, they wish they’d been a bit more cautious in spelling the name correctly. We’re talking about seven boxes. Why wouldn’t you get seven new boxes? This one attorney’s hourly fee to “oversee” this project could probably cover the cost of an entire U Haul store worth of boxes.

I think there are bigger things to worry about, like who committed this crime. MOO

 

[iluvmua]

You mean VS an X?

Don't know, but from the article it sounded like relatives of Nichol had been in CW's house before if alexa's father said that he thought that LE would escort them to CW's house and let relatives who had already been to the house inside to pick up belongings.

 

[iluvmua]

You mean VS an X?

Who is VS? Ex boyfriend?

 

[Tighthead]

They thought that they would be escourted by LE to CW's house to let relatives who had been in the house to get personal effects.

That’s unfortunate but whoever misled them is to blame.

It’s not reasonable and they were given bad advice.

 

[BaffleMe]

Who is VS? Ex boyfriend?

Sorry I meant "versus an Ex-husband/boyfriend"

 

[iluvmua]

That’s unfortunate but whoever misled them is to blame.

It’s not reasonable and they were given bad advice.

I don't think anyone told them that.

I think they were under the impression that that is how it would happen.

 

[BaffleMe]

Don't know, but from the article it sounded like relatives of Nichol had been in CW's house before if alexa's father said that he thought that LE would escort them to CW's house and let relatives who had already been to the house inside to pick up belongings.

Well, based on the circumstances and her friends & family pointing fingers at him, probably not a good idea, IMHO

 

[nightowl1975]

I find it odd that other relatives of NO's had been inside CW's house before.

Maybe she wanted her family/friends to meet him.

Jmo

Why would this be odd? It was her home for a year. If her brother or son or friends or whatever wanted to come over to her house, this is where she lived. I don’t find that odd at all.

 

[MyBelle]

And there are other things he is upset over as well, IMO:

“For now, Carlos Montez is left only with memories of his 16-year-old daughter and unanswered questions about her death.

He said he opened one box of clothes, found her cheerleading uniform and could look no further.

‘That broke my heart the moment I opened that box — because I knew I would never get to see her wear that again,’ Montez said, his voice cracking with grief.”
‘Pretty callous’ return of victims’ belongings stokes tensions between families after Anaqua Springs killings

I hope I will never have to experience anything remotely close to what he has been through the last three weeks.

Also, when you say “In doing so, he's pushing himself to the head of the person of interest list,” what do you mean? I’m genuinely curious.

The father is aggressively finger-pointing at CW and trying to lather a lynch mob mentality. It's his ex-wife and daughter who are dead yet he refuses to accept the ME's findings. I think it is a given he's a person of interest.

JMO

 

[squid]

I am reminded of my divorce. It was a terrible time.

SBM

In hindsight, I feel a bit silly for how utterly convinced I was that IT WAS ALL HIS FAULT. But it’s how I felt in the moment. Apparently this is a normal human response to trauma. If I experienced it with divorce, I can only imagine what I would feel if one of my children were murdered.

Apples and oranges IMO. You were intimately involved with someone you established a bond and I assume a commitment with over a long period of time. Dad was not involved with CW, NO was. NO was the mom and responsible for the girls wellbeing. Dad understandably has overwhelming emotions about his daughters murder but the only shooter we know of that night, according to ME, is the mom NO. Regardless Dad is going after someone not a suspect or real POI. Does Dad even know CW or just from what has gathered steam in the massive online witchhunt?

 

[iluvmua]

Would the ME be able to tell the difference between some one getting murdered vs some one commiting suicide?

 

[squid]

I find it odd that other relatives of NO's had been inside CW's house before.

Maybe she wanted her family/friends to meet him.

In one of the earlier threads a poster found records online suggesting NOs brother lived at that address for a period of time.

 

[nightowl1975]

Apples and oranges IMO. You were intimately involved with someone you established a bond and I assume a commitment with. Dad was not involved with CW, NO was. NO was the mom and responsible for the girls wellbeing. Dad understandably has overwhelming emotions about his daughters murder but the only shooter we know of that night, according to ME, is the mom NO. Regardless Dad is going after someone not a suspect or real POI. Does Dad even know CW or just from what has gathered steam in the massive online assive witchhunt?

I’m assuming from what I’ve read that Alexa’s father believes CW murdered his daughter. If he believes this, whether it’s true or not, everything CW does is going to be wrong in his eyes. He doesn’t need to have an “intimate connection” with the man he believed murdered his child to feel this way IMO. I’m not saying it’s right. Just that I understand how it happens.

Let’s say someone hit and killed one of my children in a car accident and I believed they were responsible for the accident. Anything they did or said would be wrong to me. The fact that they were still breathing would be wrong to me. It wouldn’t necessarily make sense or be right, but I would imagine feeling this way in the moment. I wouldn’t have to know the person in the car accident from Adam. They could be the next Mother Theresa. But if I truly believed they were the reason my child was dead? I imagine everything they did or said or didn’t do or didn’t say would be wrong.

 

[nightowl1975]

Would the ME be able to tell the difference between some one getting murdered vs some one commiting suicide?

I’ve wondered how this determination is definitively made as well. Someone could murder me by shooting me at an angle consistent with suicide. Doesn’t make it suicide. I’m very curious to know how the ME arrived at his conclusion.

 

[squid]

Let’s say someone hit and killed one of my children in a car accident and I believed they were responsible for the accident.

The example implies you know who hit and killed your child regardless of culpability. Dad doesn't know who shot and killed his child.