MelmothTheLost
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I went to a university just 7 miles from home. The first year I lived at my parents home, but it became difficult because I didn't have the freedom and independence that my new university friends had, so the second and third years I rented a room in a house with my friends. Whilst living at home my Mum would stay up worrying if I went on a night out with friends. I guess some Mum's worry more than others. This put pressure on our relationship and my want for independence so that's why I moved out despite the university being so close to home. Maybe if his Mum was the worrying, smothering kind, he decided he wanted that independence from the start, despite not living far away. Maybe that university had the perfect course for him so he didn't want to go to one miles away. He might have felt it was the best of both worlds.
Traditionally (and I'm going back to before 1992) students went away to university or stayed at home and went to their local polytechnic. Almost all of the pre-1992 universities used to virtually guarantee first year students a place in a hall of residence or university flat, and that vast majority moved out for more independence in their 2nd year.
The polytechnics provided a very useful stepping stone to for less confident, especially working class, students from families with no prior experience of tertiary education to live at home while studying for a more vocational or practical degree.
These lines have completely blurred in recent decades, but I'm puzzled about Tom's situation. If he thought his mum would be suffocating it would make sense to move to a more distant place to study. It's possible, of course, that Worcester had the perfect course for him, as you put it, but academically it's pretty bog standard in that I'm not aware of it having an exceptional reputation for any particular subjects. It's the local option rather than the outstanding one.