OK, do you know if Susans Bishop has spoke about her being missing?
Just curious...why?
I just wondered this has to be a big thing in the ward and stake, just wondering if they Bishop has given any instruction, or help in the search for Susan or instructions on the treatment of Josh or just anything about the case.
Snipped from Tricia's post, "What is the saying, keep your friends close but your enemies closer?" yes, not a good saying in the HC case though. Thanks for your post Tricia.
Families are notorious for protecting members that have committed crimes. Now, I would not ever cover for ANY family member that I thought had anything to do with a heinous crime. (Cindy/George Anthony and many others that I see on local news who state on camera, "MY son would NEVER do such a thing!) So that does not surprise me especially since SP was against Susan's forcing LDS on Josh.
Here is another thing I was wondering.
Here is another thing I was wondering. I know the Mormon church has a large genealogy base, have they started doing that with DNA? Is it possible they have her DNA already?
(snip, bbm) Just bouncing off your post and while a minor point, it's a sticking one for me. From what I've heard it doesn't sound to me like Susan was so much "forcing" religion on JP as asking him to put his (proverbial) money where his mouth was. IOW when they dated and married, he was active in church and then it seems the veneer or facade began to fade. Whether Susan came to feel exploited, wearied of broken promises, or even felt duped and finally realized it had been nothing but a charade or phony act on Josh' part from the start, I believe she was fully prepared to accept that. Thus IMO, it's more accurate to say what she was "forcing" him to do was to own up to that--to reconcile his actions w his words, be honest re his true self and accept responsibilty for his choice by requiring him to back up the words.
Sounds fair enough, right? But I know from experience that when dealing with a pathology severe enough, when put to this test this person will feel 'backed into a corner' and it could have deadly consequences. When you are dealing w a deceiver--particularly in the area of spiritual abuse where it's the costume of choice but authenticity is absent--you're doing daily battle because you continue to be manipulated, and as I've said before wherever there is deception there is continual conflict. Not sure if that makes sense to anyone, but after surviving nearly every form of abuse, IMO there is no more damaging form than this. Your faith will take a direct hit--or even be assaulted from every angle if a church gets involved but fails to recognize abuse--because any move toward freedom or independence is condemned as a "lack of faith" or "faithfulness." I wish she had listened to Tim Peterson, it sounds like he genuinely tried to help her and offered good counsel.
It is tragically, ironically because of Susan's forgiving heart, and strong faith (ie hope that God's grace through her could genuinely inspire her husband to become the man he had feigned to be, and the true leader of their family) that she gave her husband every possible opportunity to change. I know the courage it must have taken to set those final boundaries or requirements. A woman of strong faith does not take those vows lightly and this was also the father of her children. But you have to know just how much deprivation your heart can take... and recognize when it's God's will and Him eg working on a person's heart--and when it is you, ensnared in a hopeless mission.
I'm sure Susan had reached that point of knowing she'd done everything she could--and more. Maybe he'd have snapped regardless of when she left. But if only she'd been able to cut her losses early on before it was too late. Might sound harsh to some (if you've never been deluded into thinking you could "heal" someone's heart in your own strength) but we aren't doing God, nor our children, any favors by staying and allowing our lives to be destroyed--and an abusive man in the home will, w enough time, rather than helping as the leader of his home to bear God's image (protector, provider, comforter) for his wife and children begins tarnishing and eventually succeeds only in destroying that image. The sad reality is it isn't even truthfully "loving" to continue enabling a damaged person either--all at tremendous cost creating a climate of fear, perpetuating a cycle of confusion and disappointment for everyone else involved.
It comes as no surprise to me that Susan wrote of being in fear. And it is deeply saddening--tho not shocking--if it's ended as many of us have come to believe. For the deceiver I think it becomes a game of preserving "self" at all costs. Only it is the false self they've created which they fight so fiercely to protect and keep from being outed or exposed. People like JP become so threatened by this, so antagonized and hate-filled at someone having seen thru their act, they're willing to pit themselves against the one person they can no longer deceive: they become caught at their own game and the final duel is a battle to the death. JMO
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I don't fully understand all of Kiirsi's actions. I think I would help Josh to at least make sure that Susan's things weren't thrown away. But mostly I would be there to snoop and make sure LE didn't overlook something. What a golden opportunity!!!
Not only has Josh not shown a 'lick' of concern for his missing wife, but look what he's doing to his baby boys! In addition to doing away with the mother of his children, he wants to isolate his children in another state away from friends, teachers, school, neighbors, home, extended family, and all that is familiar to them. How dare him. Not sure there is a definition for that kind of selfishness - maybe narcissistic would fit?
ITA and he sure 'looks like a man on the run', hiding behind daddy's gated community!!!tThis husand has never shown a lick of concern for his wife's missing. He has just moved right along with one excuse or another and now he is moving back to Washington. He has hardly been in Utah since Susan disappeared. To me it is pretty obvious that he knows where she is and he isn't concerned. He wants to run home to daddy where he will be protected and daddy will fight his battles for him. Does he not think that people in his home town question what happened to Susan and the story that he made up about that night she disappeared?
After Josh moves out of the house I hope that LE go in there and just tear that place apart. Spray it down with luminol and see if there is any blood to be found. Cover every inch of it. There has to be evidence somewhere there. I wonder what the carpet showed and also the pad and floor boards under it?
I just hope and pray that this guy doesn't get away with the murder of his wife. Maybe he thinks that if he moves so far away LE will forget all about him and Susan.