billandrew
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So, having had the weekend to digest the verdicts, I have to say that I am not happy or overjoyed like many people are. What I feel is sadness. Yes, Millard and Smich got what they deserved, don't get me wrong, but its still sad that these two young men's lives are over before they've barely begun. If only they had focused their energies on more positive endeavours, and maybe if each of them had a good father figure, things might have turned out differently. Millard and Smich seem like a pair of trees that were growing crooked, they just needed somebody to set them straight. Never happened. Smith's dad was gone and his home seemed oblivious to the things he was doing. Millard's dad was apparently a drunk and his mom, well we all know about her. What kind of parents, well off ones at that, dump their kid on an uncle for two years. Seems that Millard was just appeased with whatever he wanted, rather than being properly parented.
I feel sorry for Smich's mom. I feel sorry for MB. As a parent I feel sick for what each of the parents of these kids must feel. I feel sorry for the Bosmas withe their horrible loss. Its just a huge tragedy, and for a stupid truck! There has just been so much pain for people on both sides of the fence, its just difficult to get any kind of pleasure out of this verdict.
Agreed, andreww. There was an initial feeling of satisfaction for me which faded away to uncover a deep emptiness and sadness. Now that the trial is over and justice has been served, we're left to face all the holes that were created -- not just for the Bosmas but for the family and friends of the convicted and the entire community that was shaken by these tragic events. Those "crooked trees", rather than being straightened, essentially had to be uprooted. It is incredibly sad in so many ways, and while difficult, I think it is important to recognize and embrace these feelings in order to move on and regrow.
ETA: Allowing anger, fear, and hatred to consume us is a great way to ensure that more saplings in our community grow up to be crooked and stunted. That's not the way to move forward, IMO.