All I said was that as the mother of a little girl that age, I was very disturbed by that comment and if a friend or acquaintance made a comment similar to that in my presence, I would absolutely not allow them around my daughter.
I have read on dozens upon dozens of threads in this very forum cases where a parent had a friend who said similar things, only the parent's ignored it as "no big deal". And when the unthinkable happened, every poster on these boards blamed the parent for allowing an "obvious pervert" access to their child!!!!
I never said Travis was a pedophile and I do not believe that. What I said was that in this day and age, after all of the heartbreaking cases I have read on this very forum, I would be very alarmed by anyone making a statement like that.
It is my right as a parent, in fact my RESPONSIBILITY as a parent to protect my child from anything that raises my hackles.
I choose to err on the side of caution when it comes to my child's safety and I do not deserved to be attacked for that.
Never once have I blamed or sullied this victim. I made a very true and very heartfelt comment about my parental instincts regarding the "12-year-old girl" remark. I was respectful and honest in my post and stand by my feelings regarding it.
I am sorry you interpreted my protectiveness as an attack on Travis.
Thanks, and MOO.
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The thing is, IMO, you would never ever be in a position to hear someone's pillow talk, their most private and intimate statements. If everyone was in real life what they are in sexual fantasies the world would be out of control.
Chances are the sexual lives/fantasies of people close to you would shock you. The people you would let around your kids if you chose to react to them like you did to Travis might be few and far between.
People keep those parts secret for a reason. It's part of the social contract. It's not Travis' fault that some very common thoughts were uttered in what he thought was the heat of the moment, so I will abide by the social contract.
Very few people could stand up to the kind of defenseless scrutiny that Travis has had to. If any at all.