IMO you both are right. As. We are in the medical community, I hear about physicians, both male and female, that treat their staff well as well as horribly. In the corporate world, I have heard women described as bwitches because they were self assured, assertive and driven. It all comes down to how one treats others that are subservient to them. Kindness and respect goes a long way.
I can remember working at a University hospital in the ICU and every July 1st, the new interns started. There were some that were kind and respected the nurses and their knowledge. Those that did not had really terrible nights when they were on call, being awakened every hour on the hour with a lab result, blood gas result or an update on a patient's condition whether they wanted it or not... Karma