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Just some gut stuff here. I am sure my notions are influenced by working with troubled youth. I do not know much about that particular culture but after reading his tweets, my sense is that one of two things might have occurred.
At some point during the tweets I got the sense that someone may have found out that whomever parent they thought they were might not be true. The fact that there were “family members killed and shot at indicates some shame or secret that was too mortifying to be “discovered”..
It would help explain, in this day and age why, at this point so much remains muddled as it relates to dynamics that resulted in what occurred. Usually, by this point much nuance has already been discovered.. That type of thing is kept “secret” and is sure seems as if the secrets are many here.
At other points (did you forget that she was my g friend or something akin to that) made me ponder if a relative had sex with his old friend. There was also mention of kids so it made me wonder if there was a pregnancy in here.
I have always been surprised at the amount of anger and rage these occurrences stir in people. Victim or pained individuals can and do manifest themselves in different ways. At the end of the day, obviously, at some level he was deeply wounded as well.
Does that make his choices “correct” no but shooter or deceased, everyone is a human being, the bewilderment is more related to age. I do defiantly believe that social media has much to do with this. There are little opportunities for these kids to process troubles, share and learn how others respond to stress or wounding. Most of that stuff is not handled in 140 characters or in public forums – resulting in many secrets.
As a clinician, it is a time based entity – good therapy. It takes time, for trust to be established, for the pt to come to the conclusion that the clinician is competent, that the clinician does care, that the clinician is not judging anything. That takes words- time investment on both parties.
IMO for this generation “sharing” is about taking a picture of some salad. Being drunk, or smiling alone on a cell phone. The notion of “selfie” in and of itself implies noone else around does it not?
That is their definition of “socializing” is off -- when in reality it is a very lonely activity. How many of us older folks have pictures of ourselves just being somewhere? It is a real oddity – humans are social animals. Part of that, a big part, is being able to communicate in ways that transcend wanting a dash of cream in ones coffee.
I think this generation is going to have huge problems in the roles of husband or wife – that too takes a skill set. If you look at his tweets conflict was ended with an *advertiser censored** you, shouting was demonstrated by holding down the cap key. Solutions to whatever the issues were, were hypothetically resolved, or ignored, in a few sentences not face to face.
IMO twitter and FB are hideous, and if one looks at it the horrible increase in school shootings IMO there is a correlation between FB Twitter, cocial skills, coping skilss communication skills.s
– there are just no coping skills being developed on keyboards or in 140 charactors or in text shorthand, which in and of itself implies a need to be in a "hurry"....................................
Catching up and seeing a lot of thought similiar to He was adept at hiding his inner thoughts and feelings. If one looks at his tweets there were cries for help, talking about dying, about not being able to handle "this" about rage, and confusion -- I think the big gap does relate to social media - parents of this generation learned saw etc "models" of actual communication. So where is this generation going to "learn" that skill set.
And since Twitter is so limiting there is even no way for one to repsond for clarification or further info - too many characters! Parents IMO speak a different language among all generations (!) but with social media there is another whole language mixed in wiht generationial stuff.
To the best he "knew" and observed his peers - he was, more than once reaching out in 140 charactor bursts and smiling faces or whatever those little things are!
even conflict, wounding,love,sadness is all done in a hurry..........
The girls were probably on their phones. I am thinking Nate was probably the last to be shot since the others all suffered severe head injuries and he was hit in the jaw.
