Thank you emloupe for posting this link. This article is in depth, and an absolute must read. I hope my fellow WSers will join me in the discussion here soon.
I will say this: the news story points out what many here have already said: the disconnect and cognitive dissonance between what JF did and how he is being treated after he murdered his family and friends on that Friday morning before ending his own life, leaving SO many unanswered questions and everyone else to pick up the pieces. This act leaves others in the wake of actions and emotions, unable to account for your feelings. It is brutal to those you leave behind.
I will always wonder if he ever realized this would be part of his legacy.
What I wasn't prepared to read was the silence of the Fryberg family, who are related to the Hatch family in their lineage (as we know), and the pain this is causing.
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Silence, they say, also makes it difficult to forgive, particularly Jaylen's family. They've yet to offer any sort of public apology for what he did.
Andrew's sister, T. Fryberg (redacted), was close with Jaylen's family. Jaylen's father and aunts were like her brother and sisters. Because of that love, her heart wanted to extend forgiveness. Whatever their reasons, their silence makes that impossible.
“The way they are handling it, they are the ones building a wall,” she said. “And to stand with my family, I can't forgive that.”
Andrew, Nate and Jaylen are part of a larger family. Jaylen Fryberg is the namesake of his father and grandfather. Andrew Martin Leroy Fryberg is the namesake of three of his grandfathers.
Nate's great grandmother, Molly Hatch, was born a Fryberg.
“My grandmother always said never to drag our name through the mud. Never to do anything to bring shame and disgrace to our Fryberg name,” Nessie Hatch said.
That is what Jaylen has done, and everyone who carries the Fryberg name has been forced to bear that shame, she said.
The Fryberg family is one of the largest on the reservation.
Off the reservation, Andrew's family has encountered people who mistakenly presume that anyone named Fryberg somehow bears responsibility for what Jaylen did. They apparently don't realize that Frybergs number among his victims.
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This event forever changed me, as a parent of a soon-to-be high schooler, I fear even more for my children. I had :earson: on this morning, as my own kids were at school. I was online literally posting as I awaited my youngest's dismissal from classes with tears in my eyes.
I send these mothers my continued prayer and support, along with those who lost their children that fateful day. All I have left to fall back on is a sense of community and hope that through this profound and tremendous loss, we will somehow come out stronger on the other side.
These children's pain and loss can not and will not be in vain.
raying:
:candle:
http://www.heraldnet.com/article/20141210/NEWS01/141219945
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