The problem is, children can't grow that way. A child who NEVER has to figure out what to do when a problem arises can't develop into a reasonable adult. In my opinion, that's exactly why we have 30 year olds who are living with mommy and daddy although they are very capable of supporting themselves. They've never been given freedom and forced to fly, and as a result they have no wings.
I don't know what the answer is. The answer is NOT, in my opinion, allowing a 6 year old to be gone in the morning and not looked for until 8:30. But we certainly need 6 year olds to be able to "go out and play" or "go out and explore" in neighborhoods and in wooded areas near their homes. That's how you grow up. And the thing is, stranger abductions haven't changed in the last 60 years. They're incredibly, incredibly rare.
The parents I personally know who raised 30 year old moochers who live in their basement....they were
not attentive/watchful parents who wouldn't let Suzy 'go explore' her world. They were the lazy, slacker parents who found it too hard to say no to their kids, and didn't have the spine or energy to enforce rules, responsibility, and expectations for their future. These moocher offspring have big, fluffy, parent-bought wings alright. But why flap them and get all tired if mommy and daddy are willing to flap for them. The moochers are not afraid of their world. They simply lack shame for taking advantage of people, especially family, and they were never taught personal responsibility. Exploring the woods and your neighborhood unsupervised at age six is not the One True Exclusive Way to learn about independence, responsibility, and the difference between moral and shameful behavior towards fellow man. I'm pretty sure that method can be skipped. I never had that method. Managed babysitting jobs by age 12, going off to college at 18, first apartment at 21, first home at 24.
Can't agree that a
six year old needs to be able to wander alone at all in order to learn to 'grow up'. Six year olds need adult supervision. If they didn't, no teachers would go out with them at recess, in a child-safe, fenced-in playground, even though they're only out there for 20 minutes. CPS feels the same. Jorelys Rivera's mother had several contacts with CPS because her (now dead) child was left to 'go out and explore' alone frequently. (A fact that did not go unnoticed by her child predator/killer.)
This case has shown what's very common. The child predator was someone known to the victim, and to the community. And that predator known in the community, once again, picked the
one child who was allowed to 'go explore' the most often with the least supervision. Easiest pickings.
I'm glad my parents made sure I was supervised when I was six. It was their job, and they did it well.