Can't some of us feel and state that we believe that they were negligent and also think that they are suffering for losing their little girl?
Again, I am an only child. I have 2 kids of my own that are 21 and 23. (15 mos apart)
I'm just asking for opinions here, but in the case of several children (over 3) that are spaced out over decades, is it normal for parents to be less strict with the younger ones?
I could see why perhaps, I mean if someone has been a mother 26 years, for instance that she might have a false sense of security with her neighborhood city etc, especially if she had lived in the same area for years.
I know someone with 5 kids. 26, 23, 17, 15 and 4. The oldest is the only female
The 2 older ones are exemplary. The middle 2 are completely disrespectful and almost abusive towards the mom. The 4 year old she doesn't even parent. He walked into my home and began punching my husband and I.
I corrected the child sternly and she got upset because he's "just a little boy". In fact I ended our friendship because I don't trust her teens in or around my home.
I've just always heard from "people" about the youngest children having it "easier" than the older ones and wondered is this true? It doesn't make sense that parenting styles would change over the years and as a mother ages and gets wiser yhan she was 26 years ago, I might think she would get even stricter. That's just not the case with many people I know in their mid to late 40's that are still having biological kids. These Aunts and Uncles are also younger than their Nieces and Nephews. That hurts my brain! That probably is also quite common. I'll never have any Neices or Nephews, never even be an Aunt.
17 yo is lucky he doesn't live here. 17 yo records are not sealed at 17 the records are open and they are named. I dont think they even go to juvie at 17. I think it may be big boy jail. (I may be wrong)AND if the were any prior criminal acts before 17 that he/she. is on probation for... if the child reoffends prior to 18 all the proir bad acts attach to their permanent record. If they behave the records are forever sealed.