Thanks for clarifying. I still don't know how a 4 year old could be "coached" to lie so well. It's funny how my 12yo DS tries to get his 3 younger brothers to lie for him about stupid stuff (i.e., he left an empty milk container in the fridge). They are ages 5-8 and never manage to lie very well!
Now I see what you're saying. I agree that it would be very, very hard to coach a four year old to say that her brother had been in the car, if he hadn't or to otherwise go along with a lie. They may start to but it comes out funny: "Mommy told me Sky was in the car. Mommy told me to tell you that." Okay, but did you see Sky? "No."
I've heard tapes or read transcripts of incidents like this. The Tonya Craft case is an example, IIRC.
Everyone's talking about the customs in Pakistan. Her maiden name is either Russian or from the Ukraine. I even hear the accent strongly in the audios. Wonder how long she's been in the country. I see she went to high school here. We have a large Russian community where I live and I haven't met any of them yet who did not have a strong, expressive personality. MOO
Dad's Pakistani and I think his mom was on one of the tapes. Mom appears to be eastern European and has a very slight accent to me.
Reading about this case brought back a memory - well, not a memory b/c I was too young but a story from my childhood: my mother was driving my older brother to preschool and ran out of gas. She walked home in her housecoat, holding his hand, carrying me on her hip, and 7 months pregnant with my little brother. THAT'S what mothers do. :heartbeat:
Oh. What a great post. Your dear mama.
I'm not buying her story about that domestic incident.
See, this whole incident has me questioning her on that too. But, it is totally possible that he did abuse her and hit the daughter and that she is also crazy and/or abusive. It's hard to tell. Marks were found on Sky according to the article but he couldn't talk yet and say where they came from. Maybe from mom? Nevertheless, I'm not totally willing to discount that he is abusive. An abusive husband/father is not mutually exclusive of crazy mother who kills her kid. Yet I agree. Everything she says should be questioned at this point.
First, I think the story is BS.
Second, I think that if I'm wrong and it's not BS, it's incredibly irresponsible to leave your 2 year old by the side of the road like that.
Third, I listened to the audios on the mom's blog. I caution anyone who wants to make judgements about her based on these. It is statistically very rare for mothers to make false allegations of abuse in custody cases. However, stranger abductions are even more statistically unlikely. So in this case, I guess anything is possible.
Not in my experience as a family law attorney. Sadly, it is RAMPANT. False DV allegations. False allegations of abuse or neglect of the kids. I see it so often it's not even funny.
yes, link provided in previous posts but here is another one . . .
Complicating matters is a prior incident at the Redmond Target store two years ago, where the parents left the same child, then just a baby, sleeping in his car seat as the two shopped. An onlooker called police. Sky was left alone for nearly an hour.
The boy's father admits it was a stupid mistake and can't imagine how his ex could have done it again.
http://www.king5.com/news/cities/bellevue/Two-year-old-boy-misisng-in-Bellevue-133327908.html
I;m glad you posted that because I thought he had a lot of nerve questioning how she could have left a baby in the car when he did the same thing. This puts it into perspective. After the lesson they learned, he seems to be saying how the heck could she do it again? They were charged with child endangerment and had to undergo parenting classes. That should have left a big enough impression.
My question is now:
Is this a case of the courts and CPS dropping the ball yet again and leaving the child in the care of an unfit parent?
Or perhaps, the lesser of two evils? I see THAT a lot as well. It's horrible. But when you have evaluators having to make a decision they sometimes massage facts i their minds to make one parent more appealing instead of simply saying: "This family has problems. Neither parent is stellar. For now, mother is a bit less problematic though, so custody to her." In other words, I'm saying that maybe dad was no bargain either.
It's funny, these two were very young when they married. 14 years later and they are acting more like they would have 14 years ago. :twocents:
