I posted this article a day or two ago. Very worth reading.
Female Stalkers, Part 2: Checklist of Stalking and Harassment Behaviors
http://www.shrink4men.com/2011/02/1...ecklist-of-stalking-and-harassment-behaviors/
Written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier
Stalking and Harassment Behaviors List
In order to compile a list of stalking behaviors, I reviewed 4 stalking/harassment/perpetration assessment scales: 1) the Composite Stalking Scale (Davis, Ace, & Andra, 2000; Dye & Davis, 2003); 2) the Courtship Persistence Inventory (Sinclair & Frieze, 2000); 3) the Relationship Pursuit (Cupach & Spitzberg, 2000; 2004) and 4) the Unwanted Pursuit Behavior Inventory (Palarea & Langhinrichsen-Rohling, 1998; Langhinrichsen-Rohling, Palarea, Cohen, & Rohling, 2000). The following list of behaviors are a compilation from these 4 scales:
I BBM the behaviors Arias has done as we know it from the trial:
Spying on you.
Following you.
Driving by your house, place of work, school or other locations where you’re likely to be.
Tracing your whereabouts, activities and other relationships on Facebook, Twitter and other social media.
Hacking into your computer, email, Facebook accounts, etc. (i.e., electronic stalking).
Creating a false identity to gain access to your Facebook/social media pages or enlisting a friend to do so.
Stealing your post mail. (
I wouldn't put it past Arias to do this)
Going through your trash. (
I wouldn't put it past Arias to do this)
Breaking into your car, home or office.
Seeking out your friends, family and colleagues to talk about you/get information about you.
Searching for information about you by means other than asking you for it.
Threatening to harm/kill herself.
Threatening to harm/kill you.
Threatening to harm/kill your children.
Threatening to harm/kill your new wife/girlfriend, children, family members or friends.
Threatening to harm/kill a pet.
Threatening your job and your reputation.
Threatening your freedom by making false allegations to the police.
Threatening to/destroying your property or your loved one’s property.
Sending you unwanted gifts.
Violating protective orders.
Verbally abusing you.
Physically abusing you.
Psychologically abusing you.
Vandalizing your property or a loved one’s property.
Threatening to divulge information that would be harmful to you.
Blackmailing you.
Holding you physically or blocking your egress to force you to speak with/listen to her.
Taking you someplace against your will to force you to talk with her.
Forcing you or tricking you into having sex (e.g., getting you intoxicated).
Calling you repeatedly to discuss “the relationship” or showing up on your doorstep uninvited to discuss “the relationship.”
Showing up uninvited to your home, school or place of work to see you.
Invading your personal space by standing too close or brushing against you. Doing unrequested favors.
Insisting that you “be friends.”
Seeking physical proximity by applying for jobs where you work, joining your gym, church, professional/social/sports groups or clubs, moving into your neighborhood or building, etc.
Manipulating/coercing you into dating or rekindling the relationship.
Making exaggerated expressions of affection to you and your friends and family (e.g., saying , “I love you” within a few days/weeks of knowing you or after the break-up; doing unwanted favors, giving your friends and family gifts, etc.)
“Befriending” your current romantic partner in order to harm the relationship and/or monitor you. (I think of Bionca/Matt issue)
Telling stories about you to family, friends and loved ones to show how well she knows you.
“Befriending” your friends to get close to you.
Enlisting your friends to intercede on her behalf to talk or be involved with her.
Trying to destroy your other relationships—both platonic and intimate.
Calling you repeatedly and hanging up.
Repeatedly texting/emailing/leaving voicemails.
Sending photos of herself or of the two of you or posting photos of the two of you together on Facebook and other social networks.
Writing about you or tweeting about you.
Smearing and defaming you online to get your attention or to punish you.
“Objectifying” you so that she can abuse, attack, malign and hurt you without feeling empathy or remorse.
Leaving or sending threatening objects (e.g., marked up photos of you, photos taken without your knowledge, *advertiser censored*, weapons, drugs, bizarre objects like an animal heart or soiled feminine hygiene product, etc.)
Stealing your personal objects to possess “a part of you.”
Using the court and law enforcement to harass you (e.g., making false allegations, filing restraining orders, petitioning the court for frivolous changes in custody, etc.)
Attempting to take your children away or limit your access by making false allegations or engaging in Parental Alienation.
This list is by no means exhaustive. Additionally, research finds that female stalkers tend to be more “creatively aggressive” in their stalking acts, tend to engage in cyberstalking with greater frequency, are more motivated by the desire for an intimate relationship with their victim, and are more likely to engage in stalking activities during daylight hours than their male counterparts (Alexy et al, 2005; Purcell el al., 2001, p. 2056). [*To spare myself comments pointing out that men engage in these behaviors, too; yes, they do. However, I tailor myself writing for a male audience. When women-focused abuse/domestic violence websites make their language gender neutral, so will I.]
